somebody analyze this conversation jjbswest: Okay, he called to talk to the kids tonite and we talked for a bit. He was nice to me, so I asked him if he regretted what all has happened, and he said"I don't know if I do or not. It doesn't matter if I do or don't, does it?" I said "Why doesn't it?" He said "Because even if I did, nothing would change between us because your whole family hates me now." I said "Well, wouldn't you if it was your daughter?" and he said "Probably" . I told him that he hurt me last night when he said i don't care about you, i care about the kids. Then he said"WEll, i do care about you and I do love you. But, I am not in love with you anymore>" I said" Well, maybe what you term as being in love with somebody is the excitement that was missing" And he didn't say anything. Then he said well, i gotta get off here. So, then i said," so, will you answer my question?" and he said " well, i don't know if I regret it or not but I don't want to come back because I don't love you like that anymore." So we said goodbye. end of conversation. What is going on? Do you think he does love me and just don't realize it because he is looking for excitement? Do you think he regrets cheating on me and leaving me? What do you guys think?
Re:somebody analyze this conversation legionuvdoom: I'm wondering the exact same thing. Is she really in love with this ahole, or is it just the excitement of something new? But even if it's not love, i gotta wonder why she left me for him? is she mentally disturbed, or did she never really love me? i guess i'll never really know, and i gotta live with that for the rest of my life
Re:somebody analyze this conversation cadillacjack: [quote"> Then he said"WEll, i do care about you and I do love you. But, I am not in love with you anymore>" [/quote"> Oh if I could only understand that...IMHO it's the polite way or a cop-out way of saying they have fallen out of love with you/me/us. How they can do it?. I don't know. My relationship was 20 years old when I got the old ILYBNILWY speech.. I thought I was set for the rest of my life with this woman. I believe there is almost always someone else in their lives, and while my mate was feeling perhaps vulnerable i.e. alone (my own scenario; I was away working) stoned, (again my own scenario ;she is a chronic pot smoker) depressed, off her meds (again my own scenario) here is some idiot whispering sweet nothings and telling her he is the best answer to her problems. "If your not happy come stay with me." or " you"ll die a slow death if you stay in that relationship." [glow=red,2,300"> HIS EXACT WORDS[/glow"> to her. He doesn't know me or anything about this family (like why it lasted 20 years) other than she said she wasn't happy.
sorry to rant...I really liked this post http://www.ojar.com/boards/index.php?board=20;action=display;threadid=4864 it may shed some more insight to your questions...plus I posted there too ;)
CJ
Re:somebody analyze this conversation richmds: Ok I can only analyze from my perspective plus I dont know the guy so dont take too deeply.
It sounds like from how you write it, he is feeling regret but doesnt want to tell you so you get your hopes that things will be fixed and your relationship can re-continue. He realizes he hurt you and its hard for him to face that. He himself right now is unsure about how he feels.
He realizes he screwed up big, and sometimes things are not reversable or even fixable. He doesnt know if he wants to face what it would take to win back everyone that knows and thinks badly of him.
Re:somebody analyze this conversation jjbswest: So, you think that he does regret it and maybe wants me back but thinks it's unfixable now? Or do you think he is confused and don't know what he wants or feels?
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