Re:I don't know how abelarde: [quote author=jerseygirl link=board=5;threadid=6527;start=0#msg52671 date=1104718729">
jjbswest-
When I was married I had a 4-door Saturn (ugh...). [/quote">
Ugh....I have a 4-door Saturn. LOL!
It's not going to go over well with the ladies is it? '
Ladies...please be honest, does car he drives really make a difference?
Re:I don't know how jjbswest: No, it doesn't matter what he drives. But, I want to get me something just to make me feel good and I feel like I deserve it. He is letting my vehicle get repoed (it's in his name) and I can't afford those payments. So, I just want to show him that I don't have to have him around to have something nice or anything at all.
Re:I don't know how LostTeacher: almost immediately after seperating, i started doing little things that i didn't realize were me know how. i cut and dyed my hair (it's very dark, and i have never had anything diffent done to it). i bought a new winter coat (we used to wear matching snowmobile ones). i bought new shoes and boots. when i moved into my apartment, i set it up how i wanted, i changed the colours of my bedroom and bathroom (used to be burgandy, now i choose blue). i go to the gym, i play basketball, i hang out with work friends, i spend time with my family. all of these things are moving on, without really trying.
belive me, there are plenty of times where all i wish is that i could be back at home with my dog, my husband, and our regular routine. now, i just have to start working on a new routine, and at least trying to have fun with that.
Re:I don't know how Dunno: Moving on? I haven't even gotten past the fact he is gone, I keep visualizing he will come back :( Sad. I do want to be able, he has, very easily. As for my car? He blew the motor, says he is having it fixed, though he can't tell me where? I have a Monte Carlo and want that exact car. Old, like me :) Strange, I have commented about doing my hair, a drastic change I am thinking? All in all though, I wonder if somewhere inside me I want these changes to see if they attract HIM? It bugs me.
Re:I don't know how LostTeacher: for me, i still feel the same as you Dunno. even after almost 5 months, i don't believe that he is gone. i miss him every day. one of the things i have been trying to do is at least go one day without missing him, and that has yet to happen (came close on friday night, but not quite). i think where i am trying to make the change is by thinking that i need to move on, i can't let him control my life. that i can miss him and wish he would come back, but i am not going to sit on my a$$ waiting for him to do something. i am going to do things that will make me feel better, thereby making me more attractive to anyone. that's what you need to do. sometimes you need to hold onto hope, but you do eventually need to start moving on. it's the only way to become healthy again. (and like i said, don't get me wrong, i still think that i am holding on tight, even when on the outside it looks like i am letting go)
