HELP SUPERFAST IMPORTANT WOMAN.. hardened_heart1970: HELLO. earthcreatures... woops wrong post.
i have a question for all the woman on ojar.
i admit, that i was hard to get along with at times, it still doesnt excuse what shes done to me, BUT i want to appologize, and instead of being hard to get along with, i want to show her i am the great person she married.
what would your husband, have to tell you, or do for you to show that they can be better than before? i wont do it, unless i really mean it, so any and all suggestions are wanted. i have also relized that we let the courtship go out of our relationship, and that i was truely wrong by being nasty sometimes. i am on prescription pain pills for my back problem, and she told someone i have changed since then. i called a center to see about detox and i have let her know that i am willing to do that and anything for us. help please. thanks dan i need to get her back, and by damn it i will get her back. i think.
Re:HELP SUPERFAST IMPORTANT WOMAN.. in_search_of: Don't just say what you will do, do it. If you are going to check out detox for the pain pills, just go, show her that you are not changing for her, show her that you are changing for YOU!
To be honest, there is nothing that my ex could have said that would have worked as well as, please just give me time, I know what changes need to be made, I know I cannot do those things for you, but I can do them for me, and ME alone. I just ask that you give me time to make those changes and then evaluate me as the person that I will become.
I think that you are going at this in the wrong tact (JMHO) you have to change for you, not her. To be honest, off the top of my head, I cannot remember if you left of she did. You have to know that any changes that you make may or may not win her back, it may be irreparable (in her mind) and you may have no chance in the world. But the changes that you make will make you a better person for someone else, and is evidenced around here, sometimes you get a second chance. And when/if that happens, you have to fight doubly hard not to go back to doing the things that she didn't accept in the end of the relationship. However, first you have to change for you, she has to know that the changes are something you want, to make yourself a better person.
Re:HELP SUPERFAST IMPORTANT WOMAN.. jjbswest: Okay, what it all relies on is her feelings for you. If she loves you, there is a chance. If not, then there's not and there's nothing we can do to make them love us back.
Re:HELP SUPERFAST IMPORTANT WOMAN.. hardened_heart1970: THANKS she left. said i was controlling her, she had no friends. (friends change when you have 2 kids, that will come later) she said i was in a bad mood.
i admit, that it is for me, and that i want to show her that i am better than the man she married.
she has a restraining order on me, so weve had no contact for over 3.5 months, the other night my daughter asked her if she wanted to talk to me, she said no. then after asking 2 more times, she gave in. i told her she could have whatever she wanted here. we talked for 45 minutes, which was alot of me telling her my feelings. well, the next night my daughter asked and she said yes with no hesitation at all. we talked for about 35 minutes, and after each time, i thanked her for talking with me,
well, this morning, i saw her at the stop light. she rolled the wimdow down, and i said hi, could you call me, i want to talk. she said something but cars were beeping and we had to go. i had my sister call her 3 hours later to see what she said, she said the ex said if i wanted to call her. i did. we talked for about 45 minutes. it was nice. i want to show her ive got the abiltiy to be calm, and nice. i thanked her for talking again. she said to call me later. what can i do. i want my family back so bad, and need to move slow. thanks
Re:HELP SUPERFAST IMPORTANT WOMAN.. in_search_of: you really should talk with Kin, he is going through similar things, and he might either have some words of advice or caution for you.
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