Re:HELP SUPERFAST IMPORTANT WOMAN.. lvaughn24: In a way I think that if someone really loves us they dont want to change us. All we can do is change our own behaviors to make ourselves happier and more fulfilled in life and who we are. If she sees that your a happier person then maybe she will realize what shes missing. I think the key to a successful relationship is to first be happy with yourself, and thats only because its hard to make someone happy with you if your not happy with yourself. thats just my opinion and was a big part of my problems with my marriage. i was uncomfortable with myself.
Re:HELP SUPERFAST IMPORTANT WOMAN.. cath: yeah ok, if you have the chance, give her the puppy dog eyes and bat your eyelashes. Then smile a little bit.
so, gimmie a break here, i've only had 2 drinks.
cath
Re:HELP SUPERFAST IMPORTANT WOMAN.. hardened_heart1970: i have set myself up, for major pain, and dissappointment again, BUT unfortunately it is needed to be able to show her i have changed, and am not tempormental when i dont get my own way.
i talked to her this afternoon, and it went ok. i told her that i had some stuff i wanted to show her, and to talk to her in person.
she said she didnt dare to cause i had told her id remain calm in the past, and then yelled alot. i pleaded my case. she also said "if you didnt want the divorce, why did you go right in and file?"
i may be wrong, but i think its just a matter of showing her i have changed, and wont get mad. to make a long story short, i had asked her to meet me for 15 minutes, and id be there at 6:15 to meet her. she said no, but with hesitation, then stating that she trusted me before and i got mad. she said also, when i dont show up, you are going to go back to the way you were. WRONG. I EXPECTED THAT. IT MAY BE A TEST, as it may be the only way she can tell if ive changed.
well, the surprise was this. i brought her boots she needed, the scrap book that had all my letters to her, a candle, and our wedding pics, and letters from the daughter stating how much she wanted us together(she wrote them at the babysitters, and i never enticed her to do so)
the major thing i did, was i got dressed up. i hate dressing up. i had a nice shirt on, tie and nice slacks. i had also made a cd up with songs i could ask her to dance to. as i never danced alot, when i had the chance. i just wanted to take her hand, sit and stare at her, ask her to dance, and try to work by it. i left home at 545 went to the shop. i cried the whole entire time. from 545-720 i was there. she never showed. i knew deep down she wouldnt. it will be all about how i react to this tomoorw..... i then called a friend, and went to see her, and cried till atleast 810 i knew this was going to happen. i tried to prepare for it. i havent had a massive breakdown for a while. well now i did. my eyes hurt bad.
Re:HELP SUPERFAST IMPORTANT WOMAN.. hardened_heart1970: does crying for hours take this much energy out of you? im am beat, my eyes are burning, and i feel terrible. oh god i hope my life turns around. this suxs. i will be having a drunk post later...
Re:HELP SUPERFAST IMPORTANT WOMAN.. jjbswest: Dan
I am so sorry. I know how much you wanted her.
We talked about it and I felt like you were setting yourself up to hurt. I don't understand. Just like my stbx said he would call me last night and he didn't. Just like I found out he was out partying with his brother while I am at home. I am tired too. I am very depressed today also. Mine also said why did you go out and file so fast if you didn't want a divorce? i said you cheated on me. I was mad. Why do we feel so hung up on them. Why don't they love us with the same amount of love that we love them? Maybe that is the whole answer. They don't love us like that because if they did, they would be begging for us too. But, their not. They continue to hurt us. And they don't care that they have hurt us. What are we gonna do with ourselves?
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