Re:time?????? in_search_of: no, I will not give up who I am for someone, I hope to meet someone that I can love and who loves me, however, I will not give up the profound sense of SELF that i am developing. Its two very different things. I will not sit and pine over what I lost in this divorce, I will rejoice the things that I gained.
In fact I really forced myself to do that when I found out that my ex had told his new girlfriend that she was his FIRST love. Ok, fine, this is the first person that he met since we divorced. I am the lucky one here, not because I am alone, but because I have done some hard core dating since the divorce, and I know that I can choose the person in my life, and not settle for the first person who wants me around.
And I don't want someone who will want me just because I walked in, that person is not really in love with me, they are in love with the idea of me. I would much rather have someone who has never seen me, who I had carried on conversations with. Because then they like me, not what I look like, because well, that shit gonna go, but who I am will not.
Re:time?????? jjbswest: just because you are a woman does not mean that guys are falling all over you all the time. i haven't met anyone yet. of course, it's not been that long. but, it's hard on women too, especially if they are looking for respect and love and faithfulness. you would be wanted too but you don't think you will. so you cling to her. give yourself a chance. you have gorgeous blue eyes. ;)[flash=200,200"> [/flash"> and she said wanting someone to love you for your conversations not the way you look. have we not had that conversation already hardened?
jj
Re:time?????? in_search_of: Its amazing how much attitude has to do with being wanted. I really really find that the more at ease I am with myself, and the more I am able to just be fun, and relaxed and not worried about finding someone, the more people I tend to attract. I have total faith in myself being able to be alone if I end up having to do that, and I go out knowing I will have a good time no matter what, and guys somehow find that more attractive than anything I ever did to make myself look cute.
Re:time?????? hardened_heart1970: i see. i understand. i may be grasping at staws here, but somewhere inside my heart, i belive she has not pysically cheated on me. i understand i was hard to get along with, and was the one that pushed her away, and im trying to rectify it. i dont want to go through life saying
" i wonder what i could have been?"
you also have to remeber i live in a 6000 people town, nearest big city is 120 miles away. we are like the show "cheers"
everone knows your name
Re:time?????? jjbswest: hardened, she left you. she has not come back. she has told you she would call and hasn't. you are waiting on her everyday. you are just letting yourself get depressed and you cannot do that for your girls sake. everyone makes mistakes. no one is perfect. it's not fair to blame yourself for it all? give her some of it. my hubby blames me for his affair. is it my fault? what would you tell me?
jj
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