High school sweethearts.. Schawdae: I thought that we would be together forever...I was with him since i was 15 years old. He was my first love. We had our share of ups and downs, who doesnt right? During high school he ran into the wrong crowd and got into drugs pretty bad. I can still remember finding him at a hotel begging him to let me help him. He finally gave in and I brought him home. I took care of him, made him see what life could be like without drugs once again. I thought that we were happy. Then he decided to go to California for the fourth of July. It was supposed to be a 4 day trip. Somehow it turned in to him moving out there. I was heartbroken. He came home for my 17th B-day and stayed for 3 days. Watching him drive away was the hardest thing I have ever done. He would call maybe once a week. That was about it. I didnt think that we would ever be together again. But he eventually came back home. We moved in together my last year of High School. Things were hard we faught alot but we always made it through. We then decided to move to another town. For the first year there everything was perfect. We decided to get married. I was 20 he was 21. So naturally he thought about Las Vegas. We had a beautiful ceremony at the Flamingo Gardens. Stayed in Vegas for a week, sort of a pre honeymoon if you want to call it that. Then when we got home things just started to go down hill. He stopped coming home at night. I would wait up until 7 in the morning and still no husband. I would finally give in and fall asleep. I could of sworn he was having an affair. But it turned out he was doing cocaine. He promised me that he would stop...I believed him. Then one night I woke up to him trying to take my wedding ring off my finger to pawn for more drugs. That is when I knew he couldnt do it alone obviously. I quit my job and we moved yet again. He got off drugs once more. He had a hard time finding work when we moved so I was the one making ends meet for quite a while. He ended up getting a job at the hospital. We moved in with his parents to save money. He started going to the gym and working out ALOT. I noticed things were getting different between us when he wouldnt tell me he loved me anymore (He would call in the middle of the day just to say those words to me) Then on June 18th he told me that he would be moving without me. I wasnt to go with him. I thought that it was just something that he was going through but it turned out that he had a girlfriend on the side. He decided that he would start a new life with her and not me. I can accpet his choice but if he could of only been a man and been honest with me. He told me for weeks that it was my fault why he was leaving me. Mentioned nothing of another gitl. When I went to get the rest of my things out of our room he had pictures of him and his new girlfriend all over the room that had once been ours. I thought I was going to die right there of a broken heart. To see him with someone else was more then I could bare. I had asked his mother ( we got VERY close while I lived there, someone I thought I could trust) several times if there was someone else and she lied to me OVER and OVER again. I found out that his girlfriend had been to the house on more then one occassion. How could they do that to me...they told me I was the daughter they never had. So now here I am 7 months later still trying to get over the biggest hurt in my life. I thought by now things would have been easier...I was kidding myself. I have good days and I have bad days. My question is...when does it stop? When will I wake up and not think of him?? When will I stop hurting over him? When will I drive down a street and not remember our memories?? If someone can please help me I would REALLY appreciate it!!
Re:High school sweethearts.. OldSchool: Hi Schawdae,
I just wanted to welcome you here on obviously the worse of circumstances. There are others here that will have much more input than me, but I just wanted to tell you that you did come to a great place.
Just to let you know that the hurt and pain will be there until you have totally moved on. There is no timetable and there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
take care,
OS
Re:High school sweethearts.. lvaughn24: My situation was similar. It was a girl we both knew that had lived with my sister for 2 years. He left me on the same night she moved out and they have been together ever since. As far as the pain going away Hes been gone for 2 months i still think about him and miss him everyday. wE HAD BEEN TOGETHER SINCE I WAS 16 AND HE WAS 17 were now 24 and 25.I know the pain you are going through its horrible to see them with someone else, and especially since we werent able to move on so quickly.
Re:High school sweethearts.. Dino: I have been through something similar. 6.5 years and then dumped out of the blue and she found a new man after only 1 day of being apart.
It has only been 2 weeks for me but I am getting better already. I stopped crying after a week. I stopped having nightmares about her after a week as well. I think for me, the knowledge that there will never be a future for us again has helped me let go. Acceptance is very painful but I think it has helped me heal faster.
I still think about her every day though. I probably dont go more than 5 minutes awake not thinking of her. Normal day to day activities are a constant reminder to me still. I was with her my entire adult life. Every single place I go or thing I do, I have done a thousand times with her before. I think it will be a while before I stop association everything with her.
I think it will be a long time before I wake up not thinking of her. But I am hoping it wont be long before it doesnt hurt too much.
Ojar has helped me greatly. All the great people on here sharing their stories helps no end.
You will start to feel better, little by little. Good luck.
Re:High school sweethearts.. Schawdae: I just want to say "THANK YOU" for everything that you all have said...your words mean the world to me...So again THANK YOU!
Schawdae
