Family now knows WhyNow: Well 3 months after my stbx left me... I finally told someone from "my" side of the family. My oldest brother called today. Since it was after the New Year and holiday season I decided to tell him what happened(didn't want to put a slight damper on their Holidays & have them worrying about me 3,000 miles away). Well I tried but couldn't hold back the tears when I told him. He was so supportive and reminded me that I have family back there that loves me so much and is there for me. I also admitted to him (and myself) that not wanting to ruin their Holidays was the only reason I didn't tell them. I also realized I didn't tell them because I hoped that I never would have to tell them (if she came back then they would never know and my wife would not have to feel uncomfortable at all around them), and also that I was embarassed (because this will be the 2nd divorce after a woman left me).
I am just happy to get it out in the open and ready to start the "New" Year.
Re:Family now knows jjbswest: sorry that you didn't have your family when you needed them but i bet you feel a huge relief now that you finally told them
Re:Family now knows Suddenly Single: Whynow,
I'm sorry that it took you so long to tell your family. I can understand why you waited but that still must have been tough. This past 3 months must have been hell for you. I"m glad that you will be able to have them now for support though!
Take Care. SS
Re:Family now knows WhyNow: Yes it was hard and at first it was because of keeping it a secret in the hope it would stay that way. Then it became embarrasing to me and I was ashamed. Then it was too close to the holidays.
Well, Another one of my older brother's called tonight. He must have gottent a phone call from my oldest brother today or yesterday.
We talked for an hour and I feel a little better because I feel a little closer to them. They do not bad mouth my stbx at all probably because they know that I am still in love with her and want her back and they don't want to offend me. Deep inside though I know that they are probably saying that I could do much better and that she is a no good so and so.
Hopefully now I can move further away (emotionally) from the stbx and closer to my blood family. Soon after the divorce is final it may be moving "physically" closer also (got some big decisions to make regarding career and personal life).
Thanks for the support.
God please help us all,
Paul
Re:Family now knows abelarde: [quote author=WhyNow link=board=4;threadid=6573;start=0#msg52992 date=1104830180">
They do not bad mouth my stbx at all probably because they know that I am still in love with her and want her back and they don't want to offend me. Deep inside though I know that they are probably saying that I could do much better and that she is a no good so and so.
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I think my immediate family is doing the exact same thing.
I still haven't told the extended family yet. I figured I'd give myself a bit more time to slop around in my own self pity before I begin taking on any of theirs. They aren't the most supportive bunch.
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