Re:Family life down south xhubbie: Angel,
Yep, I have to agree with you there. I didn't mean to paint this with such a wide brush. In some situations, the kids are much better off especially in situations where physical, verbal, and/or sexual abuse has taken place. In fact, even in situations where alot of yelling takes place, the kids may be better off for their parents to split.
With J and myself, any yelling was absolutely inappropriate, because she came from a house where no yelling took place. The reasoning behind it was that her mom completely ran the show and her dad was subservient to her every whim.
Just so people don't think I'm bashing women (female dominated households)
J and I had arguments almost from the beginning of our relationship as husband and wife. My friend who tried to counsel me ::) said that he and his wife never argued with one another. I never had the heart/guts to tell him, but she is a total doormat to him. He often talks to her any way he wants to. He quite often does it in a joking manner, but he quite often crosses the line. You can see that it hurts her :-[ . He talks to his elderly parents in the same way. He will give people the shirt off his back and would do anything for his family. He does the same for me. However, he tried to really talk down to me a a few times and we stopped being friends for a while.
Re:Family life favoriteangel2003: DSXH~
Children in ANY unhappy situation....it could be as simple as mom and dad not loving each other...kids know and if we stay we would only be teaching them to accept that. That would be heartbreaking!
Fighting...believe it or not, is a very healthy thing if it is done in a very healthy way. If it is done to point fingers, call names...and so on...then that is a different story. But fighting is normal and healthy...it helps to keep the marriage in line and keep the partners in close contact to what is needed and what isn't needed to keep it healthy.
Angel :)
