The Tao of Dating Daniel: Rule 1: To get what you want, don't want it.
I have a thing (unnecessary avoidance) towards western women, but it's starting to change for the better. My friend and I went out to dinner. It was a make your own stir-fry type of place. As I was walking around picking up a variety of food items to be fried, a couple of women caught my eye. I wasn't really interested, but had been told to practice my conversation skills, so I made eye contact and flashed a smile. I got a positive response so I went over and made some chit-chat about the different type of sauces that we could choose from. Their food was ready, so they went and sat down. Their table ended up being next to ours, and there were two guys sitting there. From their conversation it was obvious the girls were on a double-date. Since I wasn't interested in actually picking up anyone, but instead just wanting to practice talking and flirting with a western woman, this did not deter me. When the guys got up to go get their food, I leaned over and continued our chat. The guys came back, and the girls focused their attention on them, but I would keep looking over and making eye contact. The returned smiles told me things were still interesting. Anyways, they finished dinner and all of them got up and left. About 2 - 3 minutes after they'd left, one of the girls comes back upstairs by herself, and hands me a note with her number + email, and asked me to call her. This was the first time I'd ever flirted with a western woman, and things went fine. The phobia is hopefully broken, and a new world of opportunities is opening up.
Rule 2: Don't talk about the Tao of Dating.
Just joking. You should know where that came from.
-Daniel
