Not so good, not so good CPmommy: Well, I hope everyone had a great New Year. Me, not so good.
STBX is to move out today - I think. He supposedly is a "changed man" - read two NA meetings. He WILL NOT LEAVE ME ALONE. He's literally begging and pleading on his hands and knees to give him another chance. But I still do not trust him and still do not believe him......so what do I do??? How can I get it across?
I've told him:
I don't trust you.
I don't believe you.
I don't want drugs in my house.
I don't love you.
I can't give anymore (to which he replies, YES, you can.)
I don't know what else to say to him. I'm contemplating bringing him to my IC with me - maybe then I can get it across. I don't know. Any ideas???
CP
Re:Not so good, not so good tyrogers: Hey girl. Look, this is what I am thinking if I were in your shoes......
Fine. He wants to 'prove' himself to you. Let him move out. Let him handle himself without using you as that crutch to handle life. See how he does by himself. An addict cannot quit for someone else. They must quit for themselves. With him out of the house, he will have to search HIS soul and see if he can fight those demons which have him addicted....but he has to do it alone. Give it time and see how he copes on his own.
Does that make sense? I mean, God knows I am not a licensed shrink or counselor, but that is how I would do it if I loved someone who had a problem. You do not have to take my advice and there may be some on here who disagree with my thoughts. After all, YOU are the one who has to make this decision. NO ONE ELSE. YOU.
If you need me, grab me on Yahoo!IM or send me an e-mail. I am here for ya. Hell, we all are.
BIG BIG BIG HUGS
Tyleena ("Ty")
Re:Not so good, not so good MadorSad: CP
Hey keep with the plane, but I might sugest that you give him a chance to prove that he is changed words are words action is the only way. I know it hurts but he might realy love you more than you think ;) I know how you feel and what you went through. I do know how he feels too. He need to show you that he has changed. If you forgive it is up to you I realy know where you are at it is hard hard hard lisen to your hart and your head. It is a long long road ahead give yourself time and be honest. Not much help I know.
MoS
