persistent nightmares tossed: Greetings
For the last few weeks now I have had nightmares
about my wife sleeping with other men. We have been
talking lately and I have been staying at home more
nights than not. I get these nightmares and they
wont go away. Some nights I wake up crying like some
one has died, most days I feel the dreams like they are
a reality (in some ways they are I guess). any way
It makes things real difficult. I respond to my wife as if
what happens in my dreams really happened. ( I will
spare you all the gory details). Its put added stress
on an already stress situation. Does anyone have
suggestions on how to deal with this? Is having dreams like this for weeks on end normal?
Re:persistent nightmares jjbswest: Can't remember your story. don't know if your separated or what. But, anyway, yes i do have those nightmares because I know that's what mine is doing. Can't stand it. But, most of the time, it's because i go to bed thinking about it. I am always telling myself, stop thinking about that. you can't do that. it will drive you crazy. and try to get my mind on something else. if you are separated, my aunt said that when she was younger and went through this, she slept on the other side of the bed and the nightmares went away. don't know why or if it works cause i don't want to sleep on his side.
Re:persistent nightmares richmds: It will slowly pass. Initially I had dreams/nightmares of things being ok. We would go shopping, drive around, or eat dinner or something normal day things.
Then I would wake up and it was just me in the bed in a new place. Felt like being pulled out the Matrix or something.
You could seek a therapist or something if it is affecting sleep or your life and productivity.
Re:persistent nightmares Dino: Its been just over two weeks for me but my sleep is getting better. THe first week I had nightmares constantly. I started sleeping sprawled in the middle of the bed instead of on one side or the other. I only mention that because of what jjbswest said. But I do know that it feels better sleeping in the middle than on "my" side.
Re:persistent nightmares krunk79: If you are separated, you really just have to give it time. The longer apart you are, the fewer dreams you will have. I dreamed about her every night for about a month. I slept horribly and always woke up either extremely depressed or sad (if the dream was a nice one). But then they stopped fairly abruptly. One night I slept great, and with few exceptions, have slept good since.
Now if you're still seeing her and sleeping with her, then I don't know if they'll stop or not since she's always there to remind you about things.
