Re:I might have found one answer... hardened_heart1970: i think love, has multiple meanings, feelings, and stuff.
heres what my "new" version is. i never realized love untill 3 months apart.
true love is your heart racing when you think of them, clock watching to be with them, holding them, doing stuff free of charge for them.(i am guilty, as i played tit for a tat) loving enuff to allow freedom, and placing your wants, needs and desires aside, to assist them in theirs.
**note. to all money hungry people. i was. i was. everything i did was for money. gota have it. it also will consume you, and it will impact your life. the late nights, work on internet, the number crunching. DONT DO IT.
when you stay to give that extra for your boss, it means nothing. you are a number and name on a paycheck. your significant other is home awaiting you, and you will get further ahead in life, by maintaing your love with the other. cause when you lose the love of your life, money means
NOTHING.............
Re:I might have found one answer... OldSchool: [quote"> when you stay to give that extra for your boss, it means nothing. you are a number and name on a paycheck. your significant other is home awaiting you, and you will get further ahead in life, by maintaing your love with the other. cause when you lose the love of your life, money means
NOTHING............. [/quote">
HH, I understand where you're coming from. I fully do. I went back to school so someday when we had kids, I would be able to have enough security to provide for her to stay home. The problem is, in a relationship both people have to grow together. If one person is growing within the boundaries of the marriage, albeit working late at night, part-time school, weekend seminars, then sacrifices have to be made with the other partner as far as time goes. My ex used the excuse that she felt abandoned when I was at school... that was a load of bs! She knew my goal, we talked about it .... and I succeeded.
I totally agree where you're coming from, just to let you know you're not the only one that thinks that way. Obviously I would spend as much time with someone like a partner if it brings out the best in both of us.
OS
Re:I might have found one answer... caligirl: to me it is sacrafice without feeling like you're sacraficing or compromising because you have the big picture in mind with what you've shared and are building together.
what i don't get, and please-all-- be frank with me if i don't seem to see it-
is till the very day he laef, he said he loved me, he'd call our mutual friends and say that he loves me, he called our landlady, and told her to tell me he loves me...(she didn't even know our situation of him leaving at the time)...he told her that he was going to take care of me, and that he loved me very much...
i think that is what hurts the most...all he says now is that it is for the best...for the best for our future....
well, we have no future now, all the promises, commitments we made are gone....
:'(
Re:I might have found one answer... caligirl: love-to me it is sacrafice without feeling like you're sacraficing or compromising because you have the big picture in mind with what you've shared and are building together.
what i don't get, and please-all-- be frank with me if i don't seem to see it-
is till the very day he laef, he said he loved me, he'd call our mutual friends and say that he loves me, he called our landlady, and told her to tell me he loves me...(she didn't even know our situation of him leaving at the time)...he told her that he was going to take care of me, and that he loved me very much...
i think that is what hurts the most...all he says now is that it is for the best...for the best for our future....
well, we have no future now, all the promises, commitments we made are gone....
:'(
Re:I might have found one answer... Dino: Thats just how I feel. Until the day before she left me, she was still expressing her love.
Thats how I feel about the plans we had for the future. She was making plans 3 days before she left. Why do that? It doesnt make any sense. These things have been the hardest for me to deal with because I cant see any reason and she didnt give any explanation.
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