Re: I was such a sucker partt II dave13: Creepy... there are many things in here that I can sympathize with. To get to the point, cut her off. If there is still payments on the car and aprtment while your name is on them, see if you can get them removed or write into the divorce contract that you are removed from responsibility or liability for them (if it isn't too late). Let her live her own life. You can't take care of her, especially with all that has happened and the person she has decided to be.
It hurts. I know! But the writing is on the wall. Time to be on your own. None of us want it, but a mountain of turmiol has been plopped in front of us all to climb. At least we all have each other to climb it with. The hardest part of the climb is in the beginning and you have to take care of yourself. I have had a much easier time with many subjects as I have talked to people about them. The thought of what my ex is up to is much less important to me. I even have bad dreams less frequently and they don't bother me as much.
Just keep being that "good guy" and you will come out ahead.
Re: I was such a sucker partt II bendeceived2003: Sorry, Bill. I must have misunderstood your post :-/ :-/ :-/
Sounds like she really doesn't know if she likes men, women, both or what, so (easy for me to say-hard for you to do) I guess you have to let go....
Ben
Re: I was such a sucker partt II insomniak23: Dude your story was a bit weird. Your story sounds a lot like mine minus the lesbian stuff. My wife left me for a old boyfriend who was in the marines and actually emailed me wanting my respect and my ok to pursue my wife because he was protecting my freedoms. She has also moved in with her second boyfriend and they are living together in this weird life. He is her rebound guy and one day she will see it. But like you she says all the same things to him that she said tom me. They have a lot in common, he makes me happy, blah, blah, blah. But dude to me you sound like you are already past her. You seem like you have a lot more going than she does. give it time she will either see the mistake she has caused and want to come back or she will keep going down the hole she is digging. It will be your hardest task to make a decision on what you really want for your life.
Well welcome to the board
Re: I was such a sucker partt II itwillgetbetter: I can relate to some of the things you are experiencing. My s2bx is bipolar too and that is a whole different can of worms to deal with than just dealing with divorce. I equate being married to a bipolar as being married to an alcoholic and I was the enabler. I attended some Al-anon meetings and more importantly read some Al-anon type books. Just replace 'alcoholic' with 'bipolar' or mental illness. It helped me tremendously to try to stop fixing or taking care of him and to let him deal with his own mess. Good luck and hang in there.
Re: I was such a sucker partt II Billsfan709: Today was the day!...the judge signed the papers Friday. My friends I am a Sucker no more..Thanks for all the kind words and support..you guys helped me realize that without her, i'm still me, and a good me (and hopefully, soon) a happier me. It's weird what a load off my shoulders having her severed (legally) from my life has been, as I've finally realized what a crazy, strange, acid-trip, "B" movie porn flick my marriage was. Now comes the time to heal emotionally. The next step is..she still emails and calls me..like she still wants to be friends (WTF?)..we're meeting here Wednesday to get the quit claim deed signed..I'm going to tell her to cease ALL contact with me permanently..and I WILL MOVE ON!
Chris
