Any ideas althebrokenman: Hello all, I hope I find you well.
It has been quite a while since I have posted because I have been beyond busy and I have been doing relatively well. Let me just say that after 5 months of seperation and minimal contact things do get better. I certainly still have my moments and am not 100% back to happiness and emotional stability but I can say that I am a million times better than when the sh** hit the fan, so for those still in the evil grips of this lovely thing called divorce, it does get better.
I have a problem which I would like some opinions on. About 3 months ago the ex and I agreed on an amount of $ I would give to her so that she signs off the house that we own jointly over to me. This agreement was done via email and concurently with obtaining a list from her for what belongings she wanted from the house (she left me with a dear john letter to move in with her adultering friend) and her sister came and picked up the items. The point is that I was very amicable with everything and I agreed with what she wanted for the house. The problem is that since this last email, I have had no response from her even after sending 4 additional emails on how to go about the transfer of ownership, I have spoken to her sister 3 times, I have left her 2 messages directly, I have left messages with her parents, the point is I have done everything I think I could to move this process along (Lawyers are not involved yet). I really want to get this over with, this house is the last tie between us which needs to be broken not only for financial reasons but especially for emotional reasons. This tie keeps me in the loop which I desperately want to get out of. I mean it keeps me emotionally attached (I truly feel for all of you which have children, god that must be hard). My question is why is she not settling this, she left, she is with someone else in another city, she does not want the house, I agreed to what she wanted so what the h@#$ IS THE f&?%?NG problem. Does anyone have an opinion, please enlighten me.
This rollercoaster ride we are on sucks but it does get better, it has done so for me and I thought I was going to die at first so keep your heads up, love everything around you, the darkness will pass, it always does.
Thank you all
Re:Any ideas lookin4alite: brokenman,
I know your pain for the last 3.5 months STBX has stalled on separation docs and done nothing to end the situation. I know her problem is she is unable to accept the permanence of signing the docs. I think I am going to a lawyer soon to compel her to react to them. She has the gall to say I still think of you as my husband. However her actions suggest otherwise. I think you will face the same issues... I do not have much other advice... I think it is easier for them to just run than to deal with reality.
just my 2 cents
lite
Re:Any ideas althebrokenman: Thanks for the advice but doesn't it make it difficult on them to drag this on as well?
Re:Any ideas falling: ATBM,
I’ve been separated (not legally) for about a year. The first draft of the separation agreement was written 4 months after she kicked me out. I told her it was unacceptable and added changes I thought were fair. She still hasn’t had the final draft written. We haven’t even ironed out the details. My wife rarely communicates with me even about the kids. At first I thought she was dragging her feet because she realized she was wrong, but I don’t know.
Your wife might be holding on because this will finalize the relationship. It maybe emotionally as difficult for her to sign over the house as it is for you to remain attached to it.
Hope that help.
