at work and can't stop crying!!! mightymouse: how come we are the ones suffering??? i have so many questions and no answers!! i do want to say thank you all for all you help and support and for sharing your stories with me....
i am so upset and i don't see the point of doing anything anymore... why did he have to take my dreams, hopes, future and heart away???
the worst thing is that a month ago i was the happiest i have ever been in 7 yrs relationship, and now i feel like i am nothing... i hate him and love him... he first made me believe that we were finishing because according to him i was annoying, complaint all the time, not let him see his family and friends (sorry if i told him to stay home with me because i was sick.. but he still went), don't understand him, he feels that he can't talk to me, ect... which is ALL untrue and no real reasons to just leave a marriage (this are just reasons to talk and work, but BS reasons to leave, specially when he never mentioned before and told me how happy he is all the time)...only later to find out (by spying)that he had met this girl 2 months ago....and he has been in contact with and he has a relationship with her!!! he of course swears that this happened after he alledges that i threw him out of the house, but sorry if i don't believe that in the span of a week you can start a relationship with someone and take them to bed, specially when love was never a reason for him wanting a divorce!!! in my head i obviouly know that he cheated, but my hard is trying to giving any benefit of the doubt that it can... but if that is the case, how come he hasn't called of try to contact me after he said that he wanted to reconcile (for 1 day)..... i mean.... is seven yrs vs. 1 week(according to him)... if it was just sex and not love.... how come he is giving us up so easily!!!!!!!!
Re:at work and can't stop crying!!! :broken:: big hug, grieving is part of the process, there were times when I thought I would not get through the day, I cried at my desk, tears ran like crazy while I tried to work. Take a deep breath and if you can, take a break, cry in your car, let it all out.
Re:at work and can't stop crying!!! LostTeacher: i know the feeling. 3 months ago, i would have told you nothing was wrong, now i am moving into my own apartment in 2 weeks. never in a million years would i have thought.....
but am trying to move on. am realizing now (after almost 3 mths apart) that there were WAY more problems than i thought. (although i believe that if he had been willing to work and try, it might have been ok).
my biggest thing is going to be to change my name at school, will probably be my big crying at work time.
sometimes you just need to let it out, and empty it out, and the feeling goes away for a bit. try taking care of yourself, and not be so concerned with what he is doing. right now, you are what is most important.
and talking on here sure works too!!
Re:at work and can't stop crying!!! pauly: MM
Do you have the chance where you can sit down and talk to him?Like a mutually agreed time and place where you can both put your cards on the table.It could be the case where this is what he wants but does not know how to approach it.It might be worth a shot.
Assumptions are one thing but it's not until you really find out what's up that you can both move forward.
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my biggest thing is going to be to change my name at school, will probably be my big crying at work time.
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mmm... but you'll cross that bridge when you get there, it would be kinda like my daughter crying herself to sleep because her cousin got shots and she just knows that one day she'll have to get them too... no use in worrying now, when that time comes you'll probably be better than you are now, changing your name will probably be liberating (I guess I'm assuming that it's not happening right now)
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