Re:at work and can't stop crying!!! Dino: My ex left me after 6.5 years to sleep with a guy she had been hanging out with for a week. Peachy one minute, i dont love you the next. It amazes me people can break emotional connections and establish them again so quickly.
Everything really sucks in the early stages I know.I can only imagine at your pain drobbins. Having to see them together would be more than I could handle.
I know the guy my ex is seeing and it cuts me deeply that they are sleeping together and being with each other.
You are going to have it hard. One of the best things for recovery is distancing yourself from your ex. That sounds impossible in your case.
Re:at work and can't stop crying!!! LostTeacher: i totally understand that too. i don't know how people can just completely change their feelings, like nothing ever happened. We were together for over 11 years, and spent all our time together. now, i go days without talking to him, and when i do, it's like talking to a stranger. i guess that just shows that a part of us is stronger than they are, because we are able and willing to deal with our problems, while they just shut the world out. i teach, and am going to have to tell my kids in two weeks that i am changing my name, so i have been trying to figure out how to tell them without going into too much detail, and without crying with each class.
Re:at work and can't stop crying!!! Dino: good luck with the kids
i dont know how to not cry. i did all my crying in the first week. pretty much non-stop. havent shed a tear since though. they arent worth it
Re:at work and can't stop crying!!! CoryL: I know it is hard right now. I won't lie to you and tell you the next few months will be easy, because they won't be.
I was with my STBX wife for about five years, of which we were married for a year and a half. It took one act on one night to end it all. She cheated and broke my trust and my heart. She almost broke my spirit.
I know how empty and meaningless everything seems. Getting up and going to work has no greater purpose anymore. Coming home feels wrong. Everything you loved and cherished doesn't love and cherish you back anymore.
You will find peace eventually. It will come, albeit slowly. You will come to many realizations about your husband that you never would have seen had this not happened. More importantly, you will discover aspects of yourself that you didn't know you had. You will find strength you didn't know you had.
I came to the conclusion that my STBX wife served a very important purpose for me. She taught me how I needed to be loved and how deeply I was capable of loving. Often times I want to thank her for setting me free, even though I wanted nothing but to spend my entire life with her.
People will come into our lives and people will leave, just as we enter and leave other people's lives. We all play very specific roles. Some people are stepping stones to something better.
Hopefully you will be able to work through these hard times.
Keep your head up.
