Is this cheating? NoEscape: all Set to go to marriage counseling this week. Not sure what I am going to say but I wanted to bounce this off some of you great people.
I caught my significant other making out with an older co-worker. (a friend told me about it...ouch)
This prompted me to search her email ---and chats.
I found out she has had many liquid lunches, a lot of flirting and many long emails back and forth of him proclaiming his love for her...(well not love but how he wants her in his life) The most I saw her write back was that she was thinking about him over the weekend...after he sadi he was thinking about her. I am fairly certain there was nothing beyond kissing. Definitely not sex. It just seems he was a sounding board for her...he told her she was beautiful every second and how she deserves happiness --blah blah. Meanwhile hes married. Dirtbag. Anyway...She did say in an email that she is happy with him and she shouldnt feel guilty about it...
The more I write about this the angrier I am. Anyway...she told me she no longer sees him except as a coworker...I can only take her word for it....we are going to counseling but I cant help but feel so bitter. I love her but I feel stupid trying to fix anything...my daughter is a big factor though...
Re:Is this cheating? Shanna: Keep trying ...she had the temptation, but didn't go for it.....check up on her and do a gut check. I do think what she did was cheating in a sense, but you two can make it work if you BOTH want it.
I am cheering you on!!!
Hugs
Shanna
Re:Is this cheating? heartbroken4: NoEscape
Its so hard once the trust has been broken, and I can relate with that feeling of feeling stuiped. But just try and remember you have to try if you dont than you will never know if it could have really worked out. Let your mate know that she broke your trust and its hard to win it back but it can be done!
Good Luck with your counseling appt.
Heartbroken
