Another new member...Here's my story CoryL: I am <i>SO</i> glad I found this website. For the last three months I have been trying to find a forum for people in my age bracket who have gone through, are going through, or are about to go through a divorce.
I, like everyone else, have so much I could write about, but I'll try to keep it brief. With that, here goes.
My name is Cory and I am 25 years old. I have been married for just over a year and a half. I've got my divorce papers sitting on my kitchen counter, waiting to be looked at by my lawyer before I get my soon-to-be-ex-wife to sign them.
Nicole was the first woman I had been in a relationship with that allowed me to be me and loved me for who I was. We were together for almost four years before we got married. I thought she was the "one." I wanted to grow old with her, to have children with her. I loved her more than anything, including myself. Life throws us curveballs it seems.
A few days before Halloween, she cheated on me with another woman. She came home very late and I asked her about what happened the following morning. She didn't lie. I thought it was a fluke, an experiment and dismissied it. But then it happened again, and again, and again. She said she thought she may be gay. I tried to be supportive. I tried to be compassionate. I tried my hardest to understand.
I couldn't hold myself together. I'd break down five times a day. I'd cry myself to sleep. She kept seeing this woman while she was living in our house. I finally couldn't take it anymore and told her she had two weeks to move out. She waited until the last day to leave. I helped her pack. That was over a month ago. Almost two.
I couldn't believe it. In hindsight, I can easily see the signs. There were signs that she was interested in women. But hindsight is 20/20 and the past is the past. My life was absolutely turned upside down by the person I loved and trusted the most. I have never been hurt this badly in my life. Luckily I have had the support of my family and friends. Without them, I can't imagine what I would be right now.
I don't know how many men here have had their wives leave them for other women, but I'd like to hear your stories. I know I am not the only one this has happened to, even though I feel like it every day.
I've learned a lot about myself. I realized how things earlier in my life have helped prepare me to deal with this significant change. I know I will find someone else. I know I am better off. I am comfortable being single again. I am ready to date. I did make a promise not to break my vows until the divorce is finalized. I don't think I could live with myself knowing that.
I'm getting back into hape. I am eating better. I read and write more. I talk to friends more. I spend more time thinking. I want to help people who are going through situations similar to mine.
Each day does get easier. By finding this site, I think the path to peace will be even easier.
Thanks for listening.
Cory
Re:Another new member...Here's my story jjbswest: dont really know what to say. we are all going through different situations but basically the same-divorce, separation, whatever. This is a great place to come and people are supportive. You seem like you are thinking clearly right now which is good. But, hang in there. You do deserve someone better.
