Should I quit my job for him??? Kellyarmendariz: Those of you who have read my earlier postings know a little bit about what I am going through.
I am trying to decide if I should go back to my ex and try to work things out. I have been living with someone else and we live 45 minutes away from my ex. I took a job in the town where we live. I work for a group of doctors. I love my job. The doctors sent me flowers for my birthday, they sent me to Nebraska for special training and they have all around been great to me. My ex says that if we get back together I will have to quit this job. He says that he would have no idea if I would keep seeing the other man because he lives right down the road from work. He says he would be uncomfortable with me driving past his house every day. He says that I need to leave this all behind me and commit to making my marriage work.
I would feel so guilty quitting. I have only been there a little over 3 months, and they really like me. They have also put a lot of money into training me.
ANY THOUGHTS???
Re:Should I quit my job for him??? sheydp: I looked at your earlier postings. You are right, you need to learn to love yourself before comitting to any partner. My advice is don't leave your job, but do leave the other man, for his sake. I know you want a daddy for your kids, so do I, but your kids need their mommy too. It sounds like you can't be yourself, yet. You need to be for you and them now, work on the marriage when you know what you are offering, and what you need. You need to care for yourself and your self esteem - for your kids' sake. You need to show them how to be a strong, independent, caring person, who can ask for help without needing someone else to take care of them, just for someone to help. Go to counseling - I'm sure your new bosses have good health coverage, it should be covered through an employee assistance program if nothing else. Don't close the door on your marriage, but don't jump back in when nothing has really changed for you yet. Date him! Let him show you he can be affectionate. Show yourself and him you won't go back to the new man, or push him away, or make promises you may not be able to keep. He is going to be hurting now, too, and will end up hurting you when he doesn't mean to, give it some time... Just don't go back and forth - your kids will only be confused and hurt by that. Let them know they will always have you, and they will always have Daddy, but Daddy and Mommy aren't sure yet if they can be together. I feel for you, I really do. I too lived with a less than affectionate man, perhaps would have been very tempted by that romantic myself if he had pursued me, but I couldn't see beyond trying to make our marriage work...
Re:Should I quit my job for him??? NoEscape: Kelly--my wife works with her cheatee---in the same office.
I would like her to quit but wont make her...its a good job. If you like your job dont quit but kill it with the other man if you are trying to work on your marriage. You can never work it out with your husband otherwise.
