sucker for love or just plain stupid mightymouse: hi all,
i don't know why i didn't remember this before, but did i know what could happen and just decided to forget about it??
the first time that my ex and i broke up it (because of his best friend...read my posts), when we got back together we were so happy, after a few months of dating, he confessed that the only reason he wanted to get back with me is to have me fall in love with him all over again so that he could dump me and i could feel what he felt :o... he then said (once he saw my face) that that was his initial reason, but then he fell in love again and that was not the reason anymore... young, confused and inlove did not know what to do with this.... so i was very sad and untrusting for a while, but he never noticed or cared... and when i tried to bring it up he said that there was no point because what he thought then was childish and that was him being vindictive then ... so i guess i was convince or decided to ignore it.... 5 years past and we were in our 2-3 months of marriage and he comes out with another confesion... he said that the last time we broke up (before getting married) he told me that he was miserable, that he was failing out of grad school, crying, could not work, think or do anything... that he was a complete mess... he even had people call me and tell me this (after not hearing from him for 2 months), so once we are married that all of that was a lie.. that those 2 months were the most productive of his life, that he got so much work done and everything was going great..he was completely concentrated in work.. but that he knew that the only way i would take him back was if he acted like he did. he never really said why he waited 2 months to do this but he mentioned that he was waiting for me to cool off and since he knew i was too proud to call (because it was his fault), he had to call... when i got all upset and told him that i got married under fault pretenses then, he said... why are you maiking a big deal??we are married now and happy right?? besides we are together and that is all it counts.... besides Amy, you know you were being paranoid and childish( because the break up was once again because of his friend)...... but the truth is that we were truly happy in or marriage, but now that i think about it maybe he had planned all of this to hurt me......and this is what he wanted from the beginning.... why is it that bad, selfish, cold people always win?? i hate when people say... don't worry this happened for a reason or that god has something nice for you reserved or that he did it to teach you a lesson or that he did this so that we can appreciate more when we find that special somebody.... why would he teach a lesson to somedy who was trully nice and did everything to their partner.... would it have been better for god to teach them a lesson for being bad?or make them realize what they have?would it be better for them to be nice and realize how lucky they are for having us?? because, i'm sorry but all i got from being nice is a broken marriage, a destroyed heart, my trust chattered in to peaces and my desire of being in another relationship not existant.... while they are out there, having fun..not thinking about us with their sefconfidance even higher than before thinking that they can get any woman/men they want... kink of realizing.... wow... this is what i have been missing??
Re:sucker for love or just plain stupid abelarde: [quote author=mightymouse link=board=1;threadid=7077;start=0#msg56682 date=1106257880">
the first time that my ex and i broke up it (because of his best friend...read my posts), when we got back together we were so happy, after a few months of dating, he confessed that the only reason he wanted to get back with me is to have me fall in love with him all over again so that he could dump me and i could feel what he felt :o... [/quote">
This is just pure evil. This man is a sick b@stard.
This is just my perception of course but if you survive this everything in life is going to seem like a walk in the park. And please don't shut yourself off to the possibility to find happiness when you're ready.
I'm so MAD right now >:(
It's SH!THEADS like this that make it so hard for the nice guys out there.
I am so sorry for you loss.
Re:sucker for love or just plain stupid A002702: i heard the same crap from my stbxw. She said that I will find someone who will appreciate me, well I wanted that someone to be her. She is going out almost every night having no care in the world while I'm trying to put the pieces back and try to pay for a house we just bought together and pay for a divorce I never wanted. She has no responcibilites. She is living back home with her mom and eating well while I am losing weight, crying and missing her. I am alone in a house we made our home. I know exactly how you feel mighty, and it isnt fair. My wife had the affair and Im paying for it and will continue to pay for it. That Sucks!!
Re:sucker for love or just plain stupid loshyra: OUCH....OMG Mighty...that really had to have hurt. I am so sorry. :'(
I agree with you on this one, abelarde, it is guys like that that make it hard for us women to trust you nice guys that are left.
CD....I am afraid that that is what happens when one has an affair, the other pays for it over and over again. :'( And I know that you have probably heard this over and over again...BUT you will be the stronger one in the end. She will probably never learn her lesson and will do it again and again.
Best of luck to you all
Loshyra...
