Re:He says he wants to break up with her but needs a reason timetobefree: [quote author=lvaughn24 link=board=1;threadid=7086;start=0#msg56739 date=1106265835">
i dont.he just tells me all his crap and it bothers me. I still love him yes think the girl hes with is a tramp and bad for him, but after all the crap hes done hell no i dont want him back.
[/quote">
If this is where you are at, then I reiterate, TRY NO CONTACT! If you don't want him back, what is the point of talking to him? Don't indulge him. Don't let him have that kind of control over you. Don't do it. He is not worth it. It is time for you to live your life for YOU. He is not a part of your life anymore. So don't let him be. You are letting him have the best of both worlds...be with her but still have you hanging on by a string. Even if it is just through conversations. He is getting EXACTLY what he wants. Why are you letting him have that? I know how hard it is, I really, really do. Believe me...my ex has called me upwards of eight times a day...and I just had to quit answering the phone and/or calling him back. It was making me insane. If you must, take it one day at a time. Tell yourself, just for today, you will not talk to him. Then tomorrow, do it again. But just keep doing it one day at a time. Tomorrow you can talk to him if you want. But I think you will find that you won't want to, because you will start emerging from this fog he has you in.
HTH,
Amy :D
Re:He says he wants to break up with her but needs a reason sheydp: You are right, as always Amy. Forget my temporary snottyness - it is better to not play the game.
Re:He says he wants to break up with her but needs a reason heartbroken4: Amy:
You are so right. Everything you said I did and it worked. It was hard in the beginning but I was definately fed up with my xh still playing with my emotions while he was romancing another woman. Now when he calls I have no problems hanging up or not caring even though every conversation about the kids he somehow brings up how us is all my fault. blah blah blah!
Good advice!
Re:He says he wants to break up with her but needs a reason lvaughn24: I dont call him really maybe twice a week. He doesnt call me much either. We have kids together so I cant do no contact. When he does call it will start out about the kids then hell start talking about her.
Re:He says he wants to break up with her but needs a reason heartbroken4: When he starts talking about her as hard as I know it is say thats nice but I really dont care or it doesnt concern me. You have to protect yourself first! Always remember that. He is definately using you as a venting friend and thats not fair you cant use and x as a venting friend for the one you left her for. That is so not fair! Dont let him do that to you!
OOOHHH these x's sometimes, where do they get their nerve!
Click More for the next page.
