Re:i need your opinion on this---thanks!! computerperson: Cali--Sorry to hear about your guilt ridden response...was the guilt directed at you or was someone feeling guilty? Hopefully they just misunderstood your letter and intent and you can sort it all out.
It was still a good thing, holding it all inside makes it worse.
CP
Re:i need your opinion on this---thanks!! caligirl: it read more about them than me--and as i decided going into this-as i sent it, i didn't have any expectations-good or bad, and am trying not to magnify it. i said what i wanted to say, and just want to move on from it. i have had some supportive responses :D...and that is great- but all in all i don't want people to feel they have to respond- just basically letting everyone know where i am at- and how i am feeling...it is/was scary to know that i was putting it out there on the line- but something inside strongly, told me that i needed to do this- and i felt like i had to do it sooner than later...
i can't/nor do i want to control the perception people may have...thanks CP.
Re:i need your opinion on this---thanks!! caligirl: certainly not complaining now- and am grateful of all the psoitive responses, but i have to say, i feel a bit overwhelmed...i want to respond back, without getting into the whole story...what do you think? any advice about handling all this?
thank you in advance for your help!
Re:i need your opinion on this---thanks!! OldSchool: Cali,
Get the cork ready and let's try some merlot this time. ;) You've already opened the lines of communication up. Take each situation as it comes and what you feel comfortable with. You've done the hard part by reaching out, now all you need to do is be yourself.
If that was a generic answer, then I tried to give as little input on this as possible, since you aced your last letter. I think you're headstrong enough to know which family and friends to open to.
take care,
OS
Re:i need your opinion on this---thanks!! caligirl: thank OS- and you're right, i have opened it up...
My oldest brother- whom I've spoken to about this in the very beginning knew, and so this was no surprise to him- however, he's always been pretty self centered-in the sense that he always turned the conversation back to himself-and poor him, kinda thing.
Anyhow, he emails me, says nothing about the email I sent out, in which i know for sure he got.
Begins to ask how and what everyone (in my family-siibs) are doing--BUT makes no mention of how I am,if everything is okay-only that he may come into the city to visit and wants to know if I was in a living situation that he was able to crash at when he was in town. Needless to say- I was so f*cking pissed.
I jsut couldn't cool down before I wrote him back. So i wrote back- and reminded him how my other sibs have not recently moved, and that i was sure that they have the same phone numbers/emails, AND that I wanted to see him when he was in town.
Sorry- i had to vent it out here...I just can't beleive him...
