Re:4yr anniversary on Thurs--Need Questions Answered Please LostTeacher: i have been doing the exact same thing as you.... the begging, the crying, the pleading, and getting exactly the same reaction. so i am doing what everyone here is saying, the short, sweet, to the point talking. and it's working. i just makes it a little easier for me, now that i am not just waiting to talk to him, or dreading talking to him because i know i will just beg and cry. it's been only 2 1/2 months, and it's still hard. there is still a place that wants to talk to him, to make him see how stupid this all is, and that he is throwing away what i think is the best thing in his life. but the more i try, the more he pulls away. i need to just let go. maybe one day we can talk, maybe we won't. but i have to learn to be ok with it either way. it's not what i ever wanted to do, but sometimes you have to roll with the punches, and do things that you never would have done. i never would have chosen to not see him for over 2 months, but that is what i have had to do to survive. and think about how you feel each time you go begging, crying... does it make you feel better or worse?
Re:4yr anniversary on Thurs--Need Questions Answered Please stillsmarting: From a woman's point of view : please don't send the flowers. Its not going to help. On the other hand, I think it might *just* help if you didn't send anything. [because she would know it was your anniversary and she would *miss* the flowers">
I know it sounds weird but I actually think it works : people are like that -- give them too much of a good thing and they take you for granted, hold back a bit and they start missing you. If you give them some breathing space and time to think they sometimes even realise that they miss you. If you're in their face all the time then it doesn't happen.
Besides you sound too good for her anyway. I know lots of single women who'd kill for a boyfriend who not only remembers anniversaries but also remembers to send flowers [For example, my last boyfriend forgot my birthday and remembered a week after the actual event.">
So I think you should hold back a bit and you might just find someone who gives you the love and respect you deserve. :)
Re:4yr anniversary on Thurs--Need Questions Answered Please cloud: CD,
I've been in your shoes in a similar situation.
Don't send flowers, don't make a phone call, don't email, don't do anything.
On that day, it's not your anniversary but your INDEPENDENCE day. Corny, I know.
Do something for yourself with the money. That was a good idea.
Re:4yr anniversary on Thurs--Need Questions Answered Please dolbaby1977: if u must send flowers, and it will make YOU feel better, i will accept them, glady :)~
*thought that would make u smile*
take care....
