So Sad After The Move...Please Help LostTeacher: So, after less than 3 months apart, we are about as seperated as we can be. i moved into my own apartment yesterday, and it was probably the most down day i have had since this started.
it began with him not letting me into my house to get the things we agreed upon. i had resigned myself to the fact that i wasn't going to get anything, and was scrounging around to get second-hand this, second-hand that. then, at the last possible second (9am of the moving day, while the movers were just finishing at the place i am staying), he contacts my friend to say that i can get my stuff.
now, i thought i would be overjoyed with the fact that i could start in this apartment with my things, and start cutting more ties with him. but i feel worse than ever.
he was very upset with this whole thing, and i think was really feeling sorry for himself. i did not go to the house (sent some relatives with a list), but he phoned me immediately after. was very upset, crying (i think), not liking seeing my family that upset. i said "duh!", how did you think they would be? he continued to give me these mixed messages, but never really said anything about missing me, so i finally got off the phone with him (as the conversation was going nowhere).
from that point on, all i have wanted to do is talk to him, phone him, try for that one last time to get him to see the error of his ways. but i know that is not going to happen, being proven by the fact that he has not contacted me since i got the stuff.
so my dispare needs some help. is it normal to feel like i am starting the grieving process all over again? that i am missing him like crazy, and don't want to be doing this alone? i can't even bring myself to going into that apartment again yet, because it's just too hard to see it as being my "alone" place. please help. :'( :'( :'(
Re:So Sad After The Move...Please Help Dino: I don't know if it is normal, but whenever your emotions are tapped, you are going to experience moments of sadness.
I know I hate going to my house alone after I bought my ex out. Can't stand being in there alone with the memories(don't live in it though). Also don't really like being alone in my new place. I live with my siblings, but when they aren't there, it feels horrible.
Maybe you could throw a party, or invite friends around to your new place. Make some new good memories of your new place so you won't feel so alone there. I have been getting friends around to my current place as much as possible.
I still try and spend as much free time as possible with friends. I spent the last 6.5 years of my life with one person almost constantly. Now to be alone so often kills me.
Re:So Sad After The Move...Please Help LostTeacher: [quote"> spent the last 6.5 years of my life with one person almost constantly. Now to be alone so often kills me. [/quote">
perfect description of how i feel. i have spent almost my entire adult life with this person, and to be alone now is totally weird. i had also gotten used to having a pet (something that i had never had or wanted, but loved anyway), so the idea of going to this place just freaks me out. i know that it's something i had to do (couldn't keep living out of boxes in my parents forever), but wondering if i rushed it, and am not ready.
Re:So Sad After The Move...Please Help Dino: I moved out 4 days after my split. I didn't know if I was ready to move, but I knew I couldn't keep my sanity if I stayed.
You will be OK after some time in your new place. You just have to adjust to a new environment on top of your breakup.
I miss my pets as well. Pets never stop loving you.
Hang in there
Re:So Sad After The Move...Please Help LostTeacher: i moved out the day he said it was over, but moved in with parents. was good, because there was no way i could have been on my own. but don't know how to handle being in this apartment alone. i know they are only like 10mins away, and that anytime i need to, i can go there. but it's the thought of getting excited without sharing it with him. i think that's also the part that's getting me down. moving day was just yesterday, and i am just really hurting about it. and again, hard to deal with because there are very few people around that understand, and i am tired of everyone else feeling sad, and seeing me sad. but today, every other moment, i just feel like crying.
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