Re:Really confused sheydp: Sometimes the reason never comes, or we invent one for ourselves later, or they tell us, but we know it is not the whole truth... The reason isn't important, rebuilding your life is! I know all the reasons why my marriage ended - from his side and mine, doesn't make it easier. Doesn't make it fixable. Focus on what you need to do to stay sane in a world that is going crazy, worry about the reasons later, you know? Think about your kids, your future, the person you want to be five years from now. What to do to keep busy when your mind goes crazy (sci-fi/fantasy anyone? ;))
Keep posting, keep sane, we care!
Re:Really confused tarasan: Thanks again. Very appreciative of all the support.
Re:Really confused tarasan: One other question came to mind and this is a biggie. I know my wife wanted us to sit down with the kids and explain what is going on. (They are 8 and 4) I totally agree but not with the way she wants to do it. She wants to say that we can't get along anymore, etc., etc. What bothers me though is that she can't get along and I don't feel I can sit there and listen to the not quite truth. Would it be prudent for me (and no I am not the type of person who will try turning the kids from their mom because she has been excellent and they couldn't have a better one) to take them aside and say that she wants to leave and I'm not sure why but that we both still love them very much or something different. This is something that is weighing heavily on my mind but I don't know how to go about it.
Re:Really confused tarasan: Thank you for your advice, but she says that she has been the primary caregiver (which I agree but I think most women are) that she is just going to continue to be and I just assumed that that is how the law looked at it.?.?
Re:Really confused tarasan: That does sound really familiar. Again she has been a super mom but right now she is going to her one sister's place to vent/get advice I'm not sure because this sister is recently separated also. She has two kids also about same age as mine, but what sort of worries me is that my wife has admitted to me that at times she can be very disgusting and inappropriate in certain actions of her life and if my wife is saying that I don't really want my kids hanging around there a lot even though I know my wife wouldn't let them be subjected to anything.
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