Re:Wanting to call her but posting instead A002702: I guess today reading some of the posts where the ex wants to reconcile is making me sad that that is not happening for me. I am happy for those that may have a chance to reconnect, its just I am waiting for that call from my ex. Today I had to go sign the divorce papers and I saw her signature on them. It really hurt. The divorce wont be final until June so Im hoping there will be a chance for us to reconcile. I just feel down today and want to hear her voice and i know that is not a good reason to call.
CD
Re:Wanting to call her but posting instead Samanthain: I totally understand just wanting to hear her voice!
It's so hard to go from that person being everything in your life to not feeling like you can even just call the person when you're feeling down. When you're going through this unbearable pain is when you need the support of someone you love the most and it kills that that person is not there for you. It seems almost impossible to accept. What everyone says is true, if you call, you aren't going to hear the words you want to hear and most likely are going to hear hurtful words to add to those painful memories. If by some chance she is ever in the place in her life where she wants to and is ready to reconcile, she knows your number. As painful as it is, the odds of that happening aren't the best. Some are lucky and I prayed that I would be one of those people but it isn't meant to be. If my ex would just pick up the phone one day and call just to ask if I'm doing ok, I'd cry so hard just to feel loved but I know that call's not coming. Please try to find ways to distract yourself to get past those urges for your own sake!
Re:Wanting to call her but posting instead Dino: It's hard when you still have hopes of reconciliation. You want to speak to her because you want her to try again? It doesn't sound like she will and calling her will just leave you saddened when she reinforces that. It's not worth the heartache you will suffer.
stay strong
Re:Wanting to call her but posting instead gumby55555: Ahh, I feel your pain, CD... but just don't do it. As simple as all that... hard as hell, but just as simple. Don't do it. Everyone's given you excellent reasons WHY you shouldn't do it. I'm just gonna give you a mantra to repeat over and over: "I'm not gonna call!" And, if you can, call up a friend and go hang out tonight. If not that, treat yourself to a movie. Whatever you do, do not call... distract yourself with anyone and anything you like instead! I know how hard it is, CD... but hang in there, my friend... hang in there!
Re:Wanting to call her but posting instead ChristyM: I completely forgot that I actually had to put a sticky note on my computer monitor that said in big, black letters ... DO NOT CALL OR E-MAIL XXXX!!! It was the only thing that worked.
Christy
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