Re:For Guys and Dating - CONFIDENCE!!! in_search_of: Wow, I love it when guys say that all girls go home with the bad boy at the end of the night! Yeah freaking right! I can't tell you how many of my girlfriends are jealous that right now the guy I am seeing is totally sweet, lets me know exactly how he feels about me, does nice things for me, and in the end is just genuinely a good guy!
I mean, this morning, I looked out the front window and saw that he was still here, and I wondered why, well, he had parked in my covered parking spot last night, and this morning the cars were coated in frost, so he was out scraping my windows, not because I asked, not because I need him to, but because he is a nice guy. He treats me with total respect, respects my opinions, respects my intelligence, appreciates the fact that I don't just say, oh yes, you are right all the time, that crap. He has no qualms about letting the world see him hold hands with me etc. and on top of it all, he thinks that I am pretty good looking, and I will catch him just watching me at times. He really is good news. And not the bad boy type so much at all (I mean, he can have his tendencies, but nothing a swift kick in the shins can't cure!)
And Frid, where do you get off, last I checked someone took you home at the end of the night! :P
Re:For Guys and Dating - CONFIDENCE!!! lookin4alite: The guys are on it, ladies... Truth be known and I have no clue why - - women respond to that which they can't have. A man is a fairly simple creature -- give him attention, food and respect and he will respond. A woman likes nothin handed to her. She wants to chase it. Why is that??? When I am the @ss to a girl, she eats it up, you start to treat her "well" and she takes advantage of you and you are wussboy.
I'll take the abuse from you sweet ladies and you know you all are, but in many respects the ladies at Ojar are the exception. Its true, a compliment but not the status quo. Which is probably why some many couples have come out of Ojar.
take care,
lite
Re:For Guys and Dating - CONFIDENCE!!! Spectrum: Confidence? Of course women want a confident man. Nobody with any sense wants to be someone else's crutch. That's too much weight to carry.
But seriously.... the only women who want the bad boy are the shallow ones, the naive ones that don't know what they're really asking for (and therefore probably don't really know what they want), and the ones that aren't in it for the long haul anyway.
Women want someone they can respect, and someone that makes them feel good about themselves. They want someone with self-respect and good self-esteem. This in no way precludes a man that is open with his feelings and is able to show plenty of affection.
One thing I absolutely *love* about Eyelo is that he never leaves me in doubt regarding how he feels about me. I love knowing that he wants and needs me. I love knowing that he feels lucky to have me, and I definitely feel lucky to have him. I love that he is self-confident and has healthy self-esteem, and I love that not only does he call me every night (or vice versa) but to refute one of your examples, we don't play stupid games like not answering the phone when the other person calls unless there is a reason, such as being in the bathroom or something.
We *enjoy* talking to each other more rather than less. We *enjoy* knowing how we feel about each other, and expressing it. And it has been this way pretty much from the beginning of our relationship, too.
Spectrum.
Re:For Guys and Dating - CONFIDENCE!!! RecoveringinDE: Yes, a woman does want a confident man. Take it to the flip side... Would YOU want a woman who wasn't confident about herself and her place in life?
As for calling all the time, I do agree. I would not want a man calling me all the time. Once a day or every other day is fine. And if you've seen my post on the litmus test, I love text messages. That just tells you that you are thinking about me. I don't expect a full blown conversation on text. That is what the phone call is for.
And giving SE credit, I agree (of course) with what she said...
[quote"> Well this is how I like a man...I love the whole romance thing, good guy, great companion, best friend, someone to lean on type of guy BUT what I like even more is somebody who can not only give me that BUT can show me a little bad boy now and again. That is just me....that is just a Win~Win situation! [/quote">
Is looking for this type of guy too hard to ask for?
I didn't click on the links you provided, but, whatever you are reading/listening to? Throw it out. It is trash.
RiDE
Re:For Guys and Dating - CONFIDENCE!!! sheydp: I think the variety in the womens' response should show you something important - each woman KNOWS what she wants, so just ask... If the answer isn't what you like, or who you want to be, ask some more... If you can't, through discussion, each find a way to be the person you want to be and accept the person they are, then it is time to think about what you really want...
If you have to do the opposite of what you think is right, or be an azz, then that is not the right girl for you, make sense?
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