Re:For Guys and Dating - CONFIDENCE!!! Wildcat21: Ladies - you guys have it wrong. Bad Boys are horrible - horrible for ladies. Yes there is that inital attraction for some reason - then he breaks your heart and leaves.
I never said bad boys. I am trying to straighten some of these guys out. You don't want a guy who is obsessed with you do you?
I also do not believe you want want a clingy guy - you want a guy with a life.
I was only suggesting to learn some of the principles to turn ladies on and make sure there is always an attraction. Don't you want a guy who you have attraction to and you have that 'feel'.
Hey, I am nice guy - but learning some of that stuff has helped gain confidence and understanding. My lady friend wouldn't have it any other way.
Yes - a lot of it BS and if you're a girl with half a brain you will know when a guy is BSing you.
Don't you like to miss your guy for a while? Don't you like give and take? Not always agreeable?
That stuff teaches you how to converse and listen.
Re:For Guys and Dating - CONFIDENCE!!! Spectrum: Hmmm.......
Wildcat, you sound just like an infomercial.
This is not to say that you don't have some valid points, but still.... So do infomercials!
Spectrum.
Re:For Guys and Dating - CONFIDENCE!!! bamababe: ok, I'm going to get a little analytical...
It's not really about game playing on either side.
We all want to be loved, and we all want to love someone (unless we are sociopaths). :o
In the social order of things we tend to look for mates of similar value (actually we look for a bargain). If someone pays too much attention we feel like they have gotten the better end of the deal. If they don't pay enough attention we feel like we have gotten a bargain. The truth is neither one of these situations usually work. The less the disparity between the two the better the chance is that the relationship can flourish. Now, having said this, you can "play" with your social value as it is not a fixed amount, and your value varies in relation to potential mates (dates). However, this "playing" will only get you so far. At some point for your relationship to develop on a more genuine intimate level you will have to stop "playing" and hopefully your partner will see your value as more equal because they have had a chance to get to know you better.
Re:For Guys and Dating - CONFIDENCE!!! Lumpy: Dear Spec,
;D I think you hit the nail on the head with this guy! Everytime I read one of his posts I feel like someones trying to sell me something. I hope you're getting some kinda kickback from those sites your hawking Wildcat.
Re:For Guys and Dating - CONFIDENCE!!! Beren: [quote author=bamababe link=board=6;threadid=7538;start=15#msg61944 date=1107997217">
ok, I'm going to get a little analytical...
It's not really about game playing on either side.
We all want to be loved, and we all want to love someone (unless we are sociopaths). :o
In the social order of things we tend to look for mates of similar value (actually we look for a bargain). If someone pays too much attention we feel like they have gotten the better end of the deal. If they don't pay enough attention we feel like we have gotten a bargain. The truth is neither one of these situations usually work. The less the disparity between the two the better the chance is that the relationship can flourish. Now, having said this, you can "play" with your social value as it is not a fixed amount, and your value varies in relation to potential mates (dates). However, this "playing" will only get you so far. At some point for your relationship to develop on a more genuine intimate level you will have to stop "playing" and hopefully your partner will see your value as more equal because they have had a chance to get to know you better.
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Hey! I was gonna say that!!
Sugar Beren
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