A question of looks.... cadillacjack: Ok so here we all are banged up and perhaps emotionally retarded (well I am) so here's a hypothetical question. But first let me digress, my stbxw was, in my opinion, fairly good looking and obviously her a$$hole bf thinks so too (although she's not overly bright, stoned most of the time ) . Now many of you hold the same opinion about your (ex) spouses (the looks part) and now perhaps you are wondering about your next mate maybe. Let me ask you now how important are looks right now? Theirs not yours.... ;D
Let me ask the men first: She is bright, funny, has a good job, honest, caring, great mom, maybe even a tiger in the sack, all the good traits but she is perhaps a little (or a lot) overweight, or she has face that could be used to make gorilla cookies ;D(that was harsh) Could you ever consider her in your life? Especially when you know she would never hurt you, and supports you, loves you etc.?
And for the women: He is bright, funny, honest, a good father, good job, and maybe could ring your bells in the sack, but he is balding or not too good looking, or fat or short whatever, would you consider him? Again knowing he would dribble a basketball through a mine field for you, never hurt you or cheat on you.... keep you in Cadillacs (oh wait, that's me)
We're all friends here.....be honest...
Re:A question of looks.... Bubba: If you don't want to kiss the person, then what is the point of dating them? Seriously I tried to date a ugly girl once. She was nice, funny, kind, etc. etc. She was very petite, great hair, pretty good in bed, but her face made her look like a horse. I gave it a try for a few months but in the end I couldn't stand waking up to her in the morning. If you are not physcially attracted to the person, chances are it won't work. Sure a persons personality can make them more or less attractive. But on the same line, a girl could be a totally hottie, but if she is dumb, or mean, whatever, I wouldn't date her either. Hence I believe you need a combination of looks & personality. Just one isn't going to work.
Re:A question of looks.... loshyra: ;D
I am hoping...never come across this before.. Every man that has been interested in me I have also been interested in...and looks have always been there. BUT now that I am single again and looking back on my life and wondering. I would totally be willing to try to hook up with someone, BUT they must be able to be honest, caring, a great father to the kids I already have and any we are to have together, must have a good job, and ofcourse be good in bed...
To me....the outside doesn't matter as much as the inside. Someone could be totally HOT to everyone including me....but doesn't mean that much if the inside is a total a$$hole....make sense?
Re:A question of looks.... Chase: Looks are completely irrelevent... except in the whole singles, bar, pickup scene, where it's the looks that get your attention.
I find the more you know someone, the more who they actually are start to inform your eyes in any case.
Chase
Re:A question of looks.... Dino: Looks are really only that important to get me interested at the start. A lot of the time its little things about women that make them attractive.
I agree with Bubba. If i didn't want to kiss a girl, then I wouldn't want to pursue a relationship. My ex is an extremely attractive girl. That doesn't stop her being a b1tch. I loved her so I put up with it and she wasn't always mean. But she could be often. My next relationship I will definately focus more on the person inside than out.
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