Re:A question of looks.... ChristyM: Sure, looks are important. I like to look at my guy and think every single time "wow, he's cute". Now, my definition of cute is probably a lot different than many others and now that I think about it, I know it is. I've e-mailed or shown pics of guys I was dating to my friends and family and they are sometimes surprised by how he looks. Not that he's ugly, just that he doesn't fit the "type" of guy they'd imagine me with. Whatever, I'm the one that has to date him and spend time with him and enjoy his company. I did date a model once in college and the guy was a total psycho. Not only was he stupid, but he almost became stalker material. Soooo ... my final answer is it has to be a good combination of both looks and personality and only each person can decide what that combination might be.
Christy
Re:A question of looks.... NoEscape: It is important that whoever you are with that YOU are attracted to them. I feel intimacy/passion in a relationship is very important and to have that you must be attracted to them. Having said that--beauty is in the eye of the beholder---I am no Brad Pitt but I have had women(including my wife--even now when shes angry with me) tell me I am extremely sexy and manly. While for some women I am sure they dont see me that way..(man would life be easy if that were the case :P). Most of the women I have dated I have been extremely attracted to...but I have also dated women who were friends that I just enjoyed being around but werent attracted to physically. Those relationships never worked for me...
Having said that--that very girlfriend who I was not attracted to married someone who was a very, very good looking guy. So it is really in the eye of the beholder...
Re:A question of looks.... Shanna: Looks do matter to me! Not for super shallow reason, but bc I want to be able to make love to my SO without having to close my eyes ;D
I do have to say what I think is hot may be different from everyone else.....then again I agree with TTBF I dont' think Brad Pitt is anything to get excited over. Tom Welling is just yummy (clark kent/superman on the show Smallville).
Re:A question of looks.... LettinGo: [quote"> Looks do matter to me! Not for super shallow reason, but bc I want to be able to make love to my SO without having to close my eyes
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Lmao! I agree ...
Okay ... Unlike some of you, my STBX was not good looking. When I introduced him to friends and family, they were ... well ... shocked. BUT - he had this awesome personality. He was charming and sweet, he had my friends all wondering when they were going to find "one of them" or constantly comparing their current husbands to him.
But - I wasn't physically attracted to him. Emotionally yes, physically no. And I forced it, tried to - for 6 years. If he hadn't cheated, I would still be forcing it. And I still loved him on some level, but I don't think I completely loved him. I just don't know.
In the end though, his 'awesome personality' ended up to be all fake, everything I knew about him was false, and he eerily was like Scott Peterson. :o So much for that.
So ... I guess I don't really know my answer. I do know that my next guy, I don't want to have to force the physical attraction. I want to look at him and love his insides, but love his outsides too. Perhaps when we do find the "right" one, they truly look beautiful to us no matter how they appear to others.
Kelly
Re:A question of looks.... Jennicole: bubba,
i have to give you credit, you are a very honest person, and for that i commend you. i hope you dont talk to the people in your life as candidly as you do here. looks play somewhat of a role in relationships, but if you can find someone who is awesome in every other way but looks, yet you cant stand to wake up next to them in bed, you dont deserve the love of that awesome person. for everyperson on here who says that if you met someone who was great for you in every single way but didnt meet the standards you look for in the looks department, i think you are too shallow to deserve the love of that person. you would be the hottie with the horrible personality.
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