Re:A question of looks.... Shanna: [quote"> for everyperson on here who says that if you met someone who was great for you in every single way but didnt meet the standards you look for in the looks department, i think you are too shallow to deserve the love of that person. you would be the hottie with the horrible personality. [/quote">
So you are saying we should all persue relationships with people we have zero physical attraction to just bc they are great in other ways? What kind of relationship can you build with someone you find unattractive? Can you truly make love to someone when you can't get turned on because they are juts not doing it for you physcially.. ....dont' get me wrong a guy has to be great inside and out for me. I want the whole package. I want someone to be beautiful inside and out. what
I find to be beautiful outside may not be the same as what others find to be. I won't post a pic of my man and have everyone decide bc well that would be just rude, but I do not think I am shallow bc I want to find my SO attractive.
I think everyone is entitled to their own opinions and i think it is great that we can AGREE TO DISSAGREE...On the other hand I think it is rude to name call bc their opinion is different than yours.
Re:A question of looks.... lemondrop: What a great question... he is bright, funny, honest, and could ring my bells in the sack - he11 YES - I would consider him... ;D
However, if he is "not too good looking, or fat or short whatever" it would take some time for me develop feelings for him... I find that the longer I know someone, the more I notice the things that make them unique and special... and those things tend to be the little things that I find attractive (as an example... I knew a guy who was fat, short, balding and funny as he11... I loved being around him because he made me laugh... so I spent more time around him and started to notice how incredibly beautiful his eyes were... ironically he wasn't the least bit attracted to me - he just wanted to be friends... that's life for you...). :)
IMHO, I think men and women are built differently emotionally... I think, in general, that men like what they see and women like what they hear... so if you've got a beast of girl, it doesn't matter what she says to the man, she won't win him over... but a beastly man can win a woman's heart by what he says (hope that wasn't way too harsh...).
So in answer to your question of if I would consider him (especially knowing that he would never hurt me AND never cheat on me?) You bet! So... you know of any guys like that???? lol... ;)
Have a great day you guys...
Lemondrop
Re:A question of looks.... Jennicole: sully,
i am not saying we should pursue ugly people, just that we should not automatically count them out because they are not what we think is good looking.
Re:A question of looks.... Shanna: none of us said that we didn't give people a chance. We just said looks do matter. In the sense of physical attraction they do. I may be physically attracted to someone you find to be ugly or vise versa just bc I am not physically attrated to certain people bc of their looks does not make me a bad person or a B$#$#.
Disclaimer: I am a B$#$# just not for this reason ;)
Re:A question of looks.... Bubba: Actually do talk as honestly in real life as I do hear. If people don't like me, I don't care. No one is liked by everyone. Though if people should notice my post I said that a persons personality can make that person more or less attractive. I very good looking person can become ugly if their personality sucks. A average person can be see as beautiful if their personality is amazing. My question is to people who say that looks don't matter, go out and hit on a fat ugly person. I know several guys that are great. They would give their left nut to have a shot at a woman. They would treat them like gold. Problem is they are obese and/or not very nice to look at and hence have no luck with women. Women won't give them a second glance. I know a lot of great women too who are over-weight and they too have a very hard time meeting guys. Sure if you are with a person for a long time and you let yourself go, chances are the person won't care as much. I don't think it is shallow to say that you have to have a physical attraction to the person as well as mental one. I believe you need BOTH. I believe a great personality can make a person look soooo much better. But if I don't want to kiss the girl, then really she is just a friend.
Click More for the next page.
