Re:Getting back with ex down south xhubbie: you have to stop the movies from playing in your head. What you visualize in your head is almost always worse than what is really happening right now. If he is sleeping around, the word will soon get out about him that he is a "user/player", etc.
read a book, watch a funny movie (see songs, music, and t.v for a thread that I started about funny movies),
if you have children, get down in the floor and play wiht them. if you don't, find one. (lol)
go shopping even if you don't have money. Go to a local museum, go to a local theme park, ride a bike, take a walk
in other words, do whatever you have to do to keep this guy off your mind. It's inevitable that you'lleventually think of him and have to come to grips with this, but don't dwell on it.
have a call list
say for instance
when i get really really down and need to talk or feel the urge to call ex,
i'm gonna call mom, aunt sally, my friend from church, my sister, my brother, etc. Have that list and work your way through it. If mom's not home, call aunt sally. If aunt sally's not home, call your sister.
Ideally, you will have about 3 or 4 people that you call on a consistent basis. If you expand that list too much (see Michael's article), you may be including someone who will either a) make it worse or b) you can't trust enough to reveal such intimate details.
most of all, stick around here at Ojar to get help.
Re:Getting back with ex malko: Same feelings with me too. I have however managed to not have any thought about it and to visualise him as little as possible. it is a war for survival (at least that is how it feels) and you must keep a check on your imagination...
Two articles that inspired me, and I want to share them with you: http://www.psychicreadings.org.uk/relationship.htm
http://www.relationship-institute.com/freearticles_detail.cfm?article_ID=153
Let me know what you think.
All the best
