Immaturity Christopher: Well, hey everyone. I'm new to OJAR just recently due to a breakup. I'm only 18 years old... my girlfriend was 16... and we'd been together just over a month. Now to most of you thats probably nothing, and I should be able to get over it no problem. Unfortunatly I cannot. I've never really had any relationship that lasted longer then this period of time, and for some reason I thought this one would. I've only had 1 or 2 relationships before this, like I said before both less then a couple months. So now I'm alone and I can't get her out of my head. I think about her none stop! We broke up about 2 days ago and since then I've still been waiting for her to call back and tell me she was wrong and wants to get back together. How do I move on guys, I know I'm young but I'm not used to this feeling, Over the past couple months my ex had become very familiar too me I dont even remember what It was like before I had her... I hope someone can help me feel better :(
Re:Immaturity Jennicole: young love is something most people do take for granted, as in oh you should be able to get over it quickly!! and i dont know why, because it has been proven that young love is the strongest, why do you think so many people still think about there first fondly? but at 16 im sure she is not thinking long term, and you may not be either. give her some space, let her sort her feelings out. get out and have fun. i hope the best for you, as someone who got married for the first time at 17, i can tell you that things do change, what you want now will not be what you want in a year, but hey that goes for every age!!
Re:Immaturity Christopher: Thanks jenni, I think the biggest problem I had with my ex was her age. She wanted to hang out with her friends alot... mostly male friends, which made me uneasy. That was really the only thing we eventually argued about, and I guess in the long road broke us up. She lied about it a couple times... She told me that she doesnt want the committment. what does that mean... I really think shes just full of sh#% and just doesnt like that fact that we were having problems.
Re:Immaturity Shanna: She is 16 and wants to run around with her friends and have fun. You are 18 and looking for more....I can see why it didn't work.
You can find someone else that is ready for the same commitement you are looking for that may be more compatable. She isn't ready for that.
Hold onto that love, but give to someone who wants it and can give it in return.
Re:Immaturity Jennicole:
ok you fought because she only has male friends. lets talk about that for a minute. i generally only have male friends, it is much easier that way, women can be very catty at times. ( not all of them) men are much easier to hang out with and talk to. it isnt really fair for you to get upset about that. do you know how many friends have come up to me and said nikki i cant hang out any more because my girlfriend is threatened by you? and that really sucks becuase i lost a lot of great friends like that. that is basically what you have done except instead of her telling these guys that she cant hang out anymore, she looked at the situation and decided that you were the one she was going to get rid of. im not saying that to hurt or upset you further, just becuase it is the truth. maybe after that, she realized if a relationship meant she had to give up her friends, that she wasnt ready for that. i dont know. but please trust me, just because she has male friends does not mean she is cheating.
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