Re:Immaturity Christopher: Well, she has 1 male friend whom she is very close with. Now what he likes to do is pick her up to hang out... then he picks up his friends and they all hang out together.. I never really got this. So I told her I didnt mind her hangin out with her 1 close friend... but that is was kinda weird that he picked up all his other friends, which are mutual friends. About 2 weeks ago she even lied about who she was with, not mentioning 2 ppl... I think she was trying to be nice saying she didnt want the committment... But she did slip up a couple times, saying something about me being her father or something, and how i wanted to know where she was what she was doin and who she was with all the time, this wasnt really true
Re:Immaturity Jennicole: i am pm'ing you on this........
Re:Immaturity Christopher: anyone else have any thoughts?
Re:Immaturity ambergem: Yep - I'm gonna go all psychology major on you...
Developmentally, she's in a place where "the group" has the strongest influence in her life. It usually goes like this:
- small children play in groups.
- as girls get older, many of them start to pair off - the best friends stage.
- around the time high school starts, most teens start to hang around in groups...so dating is often less like a traditional dating scenario and more of a group activity where pairing off happens (I'm NOT saying she's dating anyone in the group - just that this is a stage and she is naturally drawn to being with a group rather than one on one).
- finally around the late teens (for some - earlier or later than others) - you find more and more individual pairs splitting off and there is an increased interest in being with just one person.
It just sounds like she's not ready and you are.
Re:Immaturity Christopher: I can't decide to call her or not, deep down I want her back... but I'm afraid I can bend just so much, and we're probably just gonna keep having problems
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