Re:frustrated, wanting to scream... fernfrond: I see your point! It's kind of like statistics. The results can be skewed by sample size or type. The results should not be concluded from limitations. I think it might be a good thing to just kick back and relax, not be trying so hard. Actually thinking back good things came to me in my life when I didn't try so hard and was more relaxed about it.
It's like learning to swim, more you struggle, the worse. If you relax you will float easier.
Thanks for your feedback!
Re:frustrated, wanting to scream... fernfrond: Just got a reply from that match dude on line. He wrote
"Thanks for writing. In the past week Ive started to get more involved with someone. To be fair I should bow out of any kind of further contacts. Thanks for your interest"
Well at least he had the courtesy to tell me a the nice way. Still sucks though. :'(
Re:frustrated, wanting to scream... :broken:: Hey, send me your picture and I'll rate it!
When I first started going out it was pretty hard to get attention... cus I was going to the places full of immature 20 year olds! As soon as I moved up to a classier more mature place, I was da bomb! :) I also changed a bit the way I dressed, I think the 5 years of marriage some way change the way I dressed to go out, I looked like I was going to go to work, and don't get me wrong, I'm not saying go slutty or anything like that, but, dress for the occasion, right?
I went out this past weekend with some girlfriends and :) got lots of attention, but like I said, it was a matter of changing stragies.
Re:frustrated, wanting to scream... kissingkim: First, it definitely has to do with where you are hanging, the age group and such. My sister has taken me out a few times, but she is a few years younger than me and the places we went to were much too young for me. I ended up going home early. Then last week I went out with my oldest girlfriend, and we went to some local places that had people more our age, much better.
ON THAT NOTE, I had to laugh at your crusty old guy comment. Many of the people there had graduated from the same local high school, and one of the girls had her dad there also. We ended up in a conversation about classmates.com and he said he had been on there to look up his classmates. He had graduated in 1961. I graduated in 1988. Oh my, he slipped me his number on my way out.....LOL.
Love all the advice here, I am in the same situation where I never dated, and am so nervous about starting. Two husbands in my life so far, and not a date between them. Just "fell" into it like you. And the dating websites are nice, but they all want to chat on the phone right away, which to me is worse than even meeting them, very personal. I think that also sets one up to stay very introverted, being scared to take the chance and date, and eventually very susceptible to "settling" or avoiding it all together.
Someone else said to practice chatting online to help with the chit chat on a date, and you seem to do very well communciating on here. I will watch for your update, when that time finally comes for my "first" time, I will be just as nervous.
Re:frustrated, wanting to scream... Shanna: I don't fit in with the 20-25 crowd (I'm 25). I prefer to hang out withpeople older than me.
I am a pretty shy when I first meet new people so I shut down and it seems people my age can't accept that and give me time. When people slightly older give me a chance to open up. also people that are older than me tend to accept my kids in stride where younger people that I have run across look down on me for having two kids and being seperated. Anyway....my point was maybe Kim is right you may jus tbe hanging in the wrong places.
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