Well, it's been a week.... r7: The longest week of my life! Since he ended our 5 year relationship with "I just need some space, I wanna play with my friends". Every day has been a little better. Yeasterday, I made it through the day without crying, and today I took the promise ring off. Progress! I'm so thankful that I have strong faith and know that everything will work out the way that it is meant to.
I'm sorry for the way that everyone lets these situations effect their self esteem (including myself). I am so glad that I found this site. I think my self esteem has actually increased even in the last week. I dont need him, and the person that I wanted in my life is gone.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not over this by any means, I just know I can only get stronger each day. I battle with picking up the phone, and have to take it minute by minute. But then he does sommething stupid and it makes it easier to let go.
He called last night, completely drunk (which only 3 short weeks ago he never did, and is now almost a daily occurance) to inform me how dissappointed he was that he was at a party and none of the girls were turning him on. I was like, omg, are you serious? Are you seriously calling just to tell me this? But, it just makes me sad for him. Not for myself, I know that I have great things ahead of me.
It makes me sad to walk away from a relationship that was so great and has meant so much to me, but I guess maybe it was never real. So thats it, I'm getting stronger every day, and more confident, and I hope that I can hold on to my hope for the next day. (What a difference being on the up part of the rollercoaster makes!)
-r7
Re:Well, it's been a week.... gumby55555: Glad you're doing so much better! :) It looks like you're on the right track but if the roller-coaster ever dips down, just come on back here! All the best!
Re:Well, it's been a week.... CoryL: Congrats! It is hard to do what you have done. You should be proud of yourself.
If anything, I've learned that sometimes the people we think we were supposed to be with for life are only stepping stones. They teach us some things about ourselves that we wouldn't have been able to learn on our own to prepare us for someone else.
At least I hope that is the case.
Keep your head up.
Cory
Re:Well, it's been a week.... gumby55555: [quote author=CoryL link=board=1;threadid=7565;start=0#msg60642 date=1107551091">
If anything, I've learned that sometimes the people we think we were supposed to be with for life are only stepping stones. They teach us some things about ourselves that we wouldn't have been able to learn on our own to prepare us for someone else.
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Well said, Cory... you're right, a lot of the lessons I've learned from my ex I would never have learned on my own. And I *will* take them with me to create better relationships in the future. Sometimes, you still wish they were who you imagined them to be, but, hopefully, the next person WILL! :)
Re:Well, it's been a week.... r7: OMG! What a difference a few hours make! (And down the rollercoaster plummits....)
So, I was doing just fine, right? Then my mom insists that she needs to go to Hallmark and is taking me with her (the xbf and I worked at a Hallmark together for 2 years), of course she didn't bother telling me this until after we left the house.
NOTE: Don't even do it to yourself! The week after you end a relationship, don't go into stores so you can see all the valentines stuff, and be reminded of all that crap!
That's not even the "best" part, I was trying to be a good sport about that. We are in the store for no more than 1 minute, when what do you know? "Our song" starts playing on the radio! (Joe, "I Wanna Know"). Of course, I used to listen to it on the CD and everything, but I haven't even heard that song on the radio in a couple of years probably. I lost it, just started bawling right there in the store and had to go wait in the car.
What goes up, must come down, i suppose. Taking it in stride, but it just reminded me (even though I know this is making me stronger and better), this whole process SUCKS!
Thanks for always listening, Ricci
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