Re:Ladies opinions please (ok guys too) RecoveringinDE: Not trying to go against everything said here. The majority says go for it! However my question still stands.
[quote"> My question is, do YOU think there is a chance? Or do you think she is hanging on out of habit?[/quote">
If she is not going to marriage counceling with you anymore, it sounds like it is more out of habit. And trust me, if there is a chance that you two can work things out, I'm first in line saying go for it! However, you both have to work on it. Not just a one way street. I'm not against marriage. I look forward to getting married again! So, please don't think I'm bitter and trying to bring you down. I just have a tendency to speak my mind. Not always a good thing mind you :\
There are alot of factors you should look at. Don't just jump back because she wants to give it another try. She is the one that left YOU. She is the one that has to show YOU that she deserves another chance. If she says that it was because "she doesn't feel the way she did before", what does that mean to her and why has that changed now? What changed it?
If you decide to give it another shot, take it slow. Don't rush back into things with her. Go on a date here or there. See how she is responding to things with you. If you give her a rose, what is her reaction? If you hold the door open, what is her reaction? These things should not be expected. She should show her gratitude. A smile, a thank you, etc.
These are just my thoughts. Jumbled as they may be. And I will reiterate. If there is a chance? I say take it! But, make sure first. You don't need to have your heart broken again.
((Hugs)) and good luck!
RiDE
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Re:Ladies opinions please (ok guys too) Daveinfla: Ride and Jouney, thanks for the input. I'm just going to take this real slow. We went to an Art Festival together on Saturday and met up with some friends, we really had a good time together. She cried when she left to go back to her apartment. I told her I was going to a Superbowl Party that one of the friends we met was having but didn't invite her because I'm trying to move slowly. She managed to get an invitation and I met her there yesterday. Again we had a good time together. I don't know how this will end up but I'm just going to go slowly. I will keep you guys up to date as things progress or take a nasty turn for the worse.
Re:Ladies opinions please (ok guys too) Daveinfla: Ok, just a couple of new developements. She told me she bought this book "Love is Never Enough", has anyone read this (if so can you give me a brief review). So far she says it has some good information and she wants me to read it when she's done. Yesterday she sounded a little off so I asked if she was ok; I had to ask a few times but she said she has good days and bad days. She said she woke up this morning and asked herself "why am I doing this" then, started to cry. We have a date tonight lets see how that goes.
