Friends w/benefits Sman: I think now she wants to have a friends with benefits type of relationship as she alluded to me in her email yesterday...must think on this one.
Re:Friends w/benefits Wildcat21: I'd keep the relationship. You get something out of it. Relationships start out as friends anyway. Plus, you have that until something better comes along. Maybe she just isn't ready for a full blown relationship. It just MAY develop anyway - TIME, Patience.
PLUS - use some the love tactics. It's important. Make her miss you - don't call every.
She must feel something for and there are ways to allow that to grow.
Re:Friends w/benefits raistlynne: Ugh - I hate those. Someone eventually gets hurt, particularly when they go in thinking this might change how the other person feels about us. I wouldn't do it because even if I thought it would make someone decide I was the greatest thing since sliced bread, it also might not do anything. And then what? All I've suceeded in is in hurting myself more. If they do change their mind about me and I'm not feeling it back for them, I've suceeded in hurting another person. Maybe I'm too much of a softee, but tell me I didn't just waste time and energy I could have spent looking for a partner worthy of my time? In the process, I would think I have also compromised my values, took someone's heart and trampled on it, and probably racked up some bad karma points.
No thanks, I'd say!
Re:Friends w/benefits BigRunner493: the girl is just ended a relationship with mentioned leaving it at a "friends w/benefits" relationship. i told her that is not fair to her or me.
the way i see it. if i really like the person i'm with then that is not the way i would want to go on with the relationship. if i wasn't sure how i felt about the person, but knew they were into me, i sure wouldn't continue a "benefits" relationship to lead them on.
you have to make sure, if that is what you want, how it would help or hinder you in other relationships. how many "benefits" relationships is this person having with other people. there is alot to consider, but i think, although the sex may be good, it would be unfulfilling and in the end leave you with that empty feeling.
good luck,
br
