Re:Unreceived Letters Beren: [quote author=naz999 link=board=25;threadid=7581;start=0#msg61408 date=1107830123">
*BIG BEAR HUG* for my Beren.
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Oh, hello, Naz! What was I talking about? I can't remember! Something about what's-her-name... wtf was her name again??
Sugar Beren
Re:Unreceived Letters down south xhubbie: While I wouldn't put it quite as bluntly as Lumpy :o :P,
I'm with him on this one.
Most of us would've liked to hear those things at one time or another, but don't hold your breath. Even if she someday realizes that she mucked things up, she'll never admit it to your face. Most people, possibly me included, would never admit that sort of thing to an ex.
Until you give that fantasy up, a part of you will always be stuck there in the past.
With my ex, I'm not so sure that she made a mistake.
She doesn't like physical intimacy (she's with someone who has limited physical abilities)
She and her family love money (he's got plenty to spare)
She likes to wear the pants and we constantly had power struggles with me insisting on having an equal voice. (she's with someone who is in his 40's, has never been married, and is ... well... sort of desperate for a steady girlfriend)
She is getting to attend socialite events due to her bf's family. They're a big money family here in town.
oh , my point? ;) Both of you might end up in a situation that is ultimately better for you (better fit). I'm sure Naz thinks so and can say an "oh yeah" on this one. :)
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Re:Unreceived Letters Beren: (quote deleted)
[size=4"> OH YEAH!![/size">
Sugar Beren
Re:Unreceived Letters Spectrum: Hey Beren,
I think we all want to hear our exes admit they've made mistakes in leaving us. It's totally natural to want someone who hurt us to apologize and try to heal the hurt.
I can tell you though, that having received alot of those statements from my ex didn't help one tiny bit. In fact, it made it a million times worse because I thought, "Why couldn't you have figured this out before? Why could you figure out all this stuff for your crappy new girlfriend, but not for me?" etc, etc, etc.
Basically what it comes down to is that in the long run it is much better if everyone involved just smiles and pats each other on the back and pretends that they didn't have their respective hearts run through a meat grinder.
Happy Valentine's Day! Ugh.
That said, you're a terrific guy, Beren. You'll find someone much better and much less flaky.... guaranteed!
Spectrum.
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