Re:Someone help me please Chase: Hi again :)
It's probably the wrong time to be thinking about what you did get out of your relationships, but I bet you did get something worthwhile, and even if it can't continue - and I know you wish it could - it must be better to have had that than not have had it at all.
Hey, try and think back to the last time you were single and happy. You know, the thrill of new romance, or the excitement of meeting someone who is interesting. This is something that might happen again now!
If you've got lots of love to give, and the people you've been with so far haven't been willing to take it, then ultimately they're the ones who have missed out.
Chase
PS: tell me if you want me to stop being annoyingly full of advice ... I keep thinking how ironic it is that my marriage is a complete stuff up and I can't work out how to make it work, but here I am posting ideas to everyone at ojar!
Re:Someone help me please 1973kendoll: your right, I just want to settle down though, Im so out of the bar scene, which i so popular for gay men. I thought this was going to be my last relationship. I am so pissed and resentful that someone else is going to reap the benefits of him, emotionally and financially; maybe thats why Im so upset. thank you for you support Chase. I appreciate it. very much.
Re:Someone help me please sheydp: Chase, you keep on givin' the advice - we need it. James, you gotta focus on what you HAVE. You are getting a car! How exciting! Start hunting online, look up blue book stats, etc. You said you have ambition - what is it? Come on, share some of that good stuff...
Re:Someone help me please 1973kendoll: There are so many things I want to do, I just lack confidene in myself, ( although there is a reason my handle is 1973KENDOLL, LOL), But inside I feel like a worthless peice of shit. I was always ridiculed by family and peers, and never motivated. Im not passing blamep. Im thinking I may want to do hair, work in the entertainment industry, massage theapy; its just the money situation; Im trying to get my priorities in order; and have rambling thoughts of do I get a car first? do I get my own place to start? sleep on a urinated infested couch and invest in school?? This is so challengeing to me? Thank you for your support though.
Re:Someone help me please sheydp: Ok, sounds like a wide variety of interests... I'm with ya there... Sounds like you have a lot to do to occupy your mind beyond him... What schools are in your area, what are the real costs, what training is there for hair, massage, etc., what do they cost, what kind of apts. are out there, where are they located, what do they cost, are they where you can get to work and back...
You can tell me to go to he** if you like, but would it help if you had someone to report to on what you found? Like if we said you have to research at least one of your interests a day and report on it? Maybe something will grab your interest, and if you have someone who will shake you (figuratively, of course) by the shoulders if you haven't done it, maybe that will help? Just an idea...
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