have reached a new milestone jjbswest: When I first started posting (and some of you may even remember this), all i thought about was revenge. I said that i couldn't wait until he realized what he had done and was as miserable as i was. someone told me that i won't be happy when he becomes miserable. that i would feel sad for him. i didn't understand that. I do now. My wish has come true. He is miserable, he is very jealous, and probably does want me back. But, (like that person told me) I am at a point that i don't want him anymore. I am not glad that he is miserable and unhappy. I am sad that he is going through what he is going through and it's kind of bittersweet because now he is getting a taste of what i have been going through but at the same time, I feel sad for him. sad because it's too late for me and him and he should have realized that before. sad because i met someone that made me realize what a real man is supposed to be doing that he never did before. i do want him to be happy because right now i am happy. anyway, part of my whole story and wanted to post. whoever you were that told me i would feel this way, you were right.
Re:have reached a new milestone Shanna: That is great that you are to that point!!! My dilemma....I am happy that stbxh is happy with his new girl, but it ticks me off that he doesn't call the kids bc he is busy with her. Or he does call the kids while out to eat several night in a row. When he complains about not having enough money while having more than enough to do that with. So I am stuck in a limbo I guess.....okay back to you.....he will get over it just like you did. So don't stress about him....he caused his own pain and now he has to feel it to truly move on. Just like we all did.
Re:have reached a new milestone ChristyM: Wow Sully, you just described how I feel about my ex.
I don't want to hijack this thread but I think it's along the same lines as jjbswest is feeling.
I didn't want my ex to be unhappy and frankly it was a lot of pressure for me to always be worried about his frame of mind and what he would do. But it burns my butt that he tells me how much he spends on various things and how he has been to New York FIVE times in the past couple of months to visit a girl and yet he hasn't been down to visit his daughter ONCE. I don't get it.
Anyway, I struggled for a long time with the same feelings you are jjbswest. When he decided he made a mistake and changed his mind I felt like I should want to get back with him; yet I didn't. It was too late for us and something about that realization made me incredibly sad.
Christy
Re:have reached a new milestone clb: People are telling me the same thing-that in the end he will realize that he has made a mistake and by that time it will be to late (strangly enough he is saying this too). A few weeks ago, I held onto the hope that this woud happen and I would be there waiting for hiim. But, as the weeks go by I am realizing that anyone that would do this to me is not worth waiting for. I do want to see him in pain, I can't get past that part yet. But, I hope I will as you have.
