If he wants divorce why is he not taking the steps? clb: My husband wants the divorce, but so far has not taken any steps in pursuing our seperation other then putting our house up for sale. He originally said to me that if I wanted him to he would move out. At the time I said no, because I thought we could work things out. Now I know after over a month that he needs to be by himself in order to figure out his own stuff and us being together is only confusing me more. So, I asked him three times to move out. The first time was please do this for yourself, second was you need to do this for me, third was you really need to do this. All three times he has said no we can not afford it. I handle the finances, it would be a strech, but we could afford it until our home sells. He continues to tell me just being around him makes him angry and unhappy. So...why not get away from the problem and begin to move on with your life????? He also continues to tell me to get a lawyer and he'll agree to whatever I want. I refuse to, if he wants this he needs to make the first step. On one hand I feel like maybe he really doesn't want this. On the ohter I think he is just lazy and wants me to do this for him too since I have always done everything in our relationship. What do you all think??? Especially the guys that been the ones to iniate the divorce??
Re:If he wants divorce why is he not taking the steps? Shanna: I think that this is pretty common. I don't know why they ask for it and then don't pursue the steps it takes to get what they are asking for. I am filing for the divorce even though he is the one who cheated and didn't want to try to work it out. There are others here in the same position. I am going after my own divorce so that I can have the closure and so that it is done on my terms.
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Re:If he wants divorce why is he not taking the steps? mightymouse: yup... i am in the same situation.... he is the one who cheated and wanted the divorce but is not doing anything about it..... its been a month and a half since he left, he hasn't called and he has not initiated the divorce.... i don't understand these people!!!!!!!!! they hurt us, and even until the end are still taking advantage of us!!!! just like you, i did everything for him.. so i guess he wants me to do this last thing.... it's funny, he is man enough to cheat, but no man enough to file for divorce and do the right thing..... hang in there
Re:If he wants divorce why is he not taking the steps? clb: Thanks for the info. I just can't figure it out. ??? He is the one that is unhappy and angry whenever I am around but, yet he is still around even though he has an out.
Re:If he wants divorce why is he not taking the steps? pauly: sully and mm,
what are your views on a year of this limbo situation,when the divorce is stale mate?
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