Re: LOSING MY MIND - NEED LAW ADVICE! achingallover: Thanks d2b- I did read it, but not completely. My situation is so unique here wtih what's happening. The latest is that this woman in the drive way went off on my today...like followed me into my house and wouldn't leave me alone...and then she called my s2bx where he is at a wedding in New Jersey and freaked out. Now it gets better...hold onto your seat...he got her a hotel room for the weekend! On his money! Is that unbelievable! This 35 year old woman is acting like a 2 year old with absoultely no resources! Unbelievable! Then, she calls me and leave a message of her cats screaming into the phone! AND she calls me again and says "I'll never forgive you for this..." and I immediately hung up. THIS WOMAN IS NOT STABLE!!! She is totally addicated to pot - smokes daily - and is probably out! I don't know but she's really scaring me. I think I'm going to go get another lock to put on the door while she is at her little hotel over the weekend that my stbx has booked for her. Can you believe this!
Re: LOSING MY MIND - NEED LAW ADVICE! JimB: Sounds like you are letting your emotions get carried away.
First of all, as far as I know, the only person here who is remotely qualified to give legal advice is barelybreathing. You are already planning on talking to a lawyer about the divorce situation anyway - ask him about this as well. I doubt anyone here knows the legal subtleties of this situation, especially considering they're probably different from state to state.
Secondly, and more importantly, you're moving out anyway, right? So why is it such a big deal to you? How much does it really affect you that she's camped out in your driveway and won't leave? Yes, she sounds like a low class individual and a general waste of time. So why are you wasting your time on her? Now that you've stirred up the pot, changing the locks sounds like a good idea, so she can't come in and mess with your stuff. But you have bigger fish to fry - let this one go. She will be your h's problem soon enough. It's not your responsibility to protect your h from her, or her from herself.
Just MHO of course.
Re: LOSING MY MIND - NEED LAW ADVICE! achingallover: Yes, Jim, you are totally right. The only problem is, the way she came at me was totally off the edge...like, she followed me into my house yelling at me and flipping out as I was saying "get out of my house". She's crazy and she really scares me. I guess my biggest concern is the safety of myself staying here until everything is organized and I move out. I feel like this chic could go off at any moment, ya know? It's hard to be here with her when that is happening - and grieving the fact that my husband is divorcing me. Yes, I was totally emotional in the moment - but I think it was due to my fear of this woman who I am now realizing I've known less than a year and do not feel like I can trust. Hum. I guess the biggest thing here is going to be talking in mediation how my safety at home can be secure while these proceedings are taking place.
I cannot believe I let this woman into my house. I was NOT in my right mind. Oh well, I guess hindsight is 20/20.
Steph
Re: LOSING MY MIND - NEED LAW ADVICE! achingallover: oh, and you're right about legal advice...I guess I was wondering if anyone might have a clue in this sitaution - or any good ideas! I do like the burning bag of poop one! ;D
