Anniversary paddington: Today is my anniversary, I guess. Would have been my 4th.
My stbx called in the morning to tell me that "no matter what" he still loved me and cared for me. He just does not have what it takes to work things out (what would that be? strength? a spine? determination? love?).
I am sad because I remember last year....we were happy. Not 100%, but not what I ever thought would be within one year of divorce. It amazes me how quickly this all happened and, more so, how quickly my stbx has apparently been able to detatch and move on. I "attach hard" as my therapist says - a good thing for a functional relationship but a terrible thing in a divorce.
Re: Anniversary justmenow: I'm sorry you're hurting today. Think of it this way - dead people don't celebrate birthdays, and dead relationships don't celebrate anniversaries. That's what gets me through the rough days. I'm going to make myself scarce on my anniversary this year because I don't want him to contact me at all. Cellphone off - away from home, etc...
I wish you strength for today.
Re: Anniversary itwillgetbetter: Hard to believe how far we have come in such a short space of time. A therapist also told me that I have the ability to attach and that it is a GOOD thing for a function relationship. Now if I just could have met someone who was able to do that too.......
I don't know what to say about your anniversary. My husband left a few days before ours so I spent my crying my eyes out. Which is so unlike me. I recommend calling a friend going out to dinner and make a rule not to bring his name into the conversation all night.
Re: Anniversary dominowin: My 9th anniversary is next week, the 24th...I'm really nervous, not sure what I should be doing. Not that I should be doing anything specific, obviously, but it feels weird making plans to go out, though I don't want to hide under the covers...anyone out there experienced this and what did you end up doing on the "dreaded" day?
Re: Anniversary niceguy: Our 2nd anniversary would have been (is?) next monday the 21st. we were together for nine years. For me it's both an anniversary of our marriage and the end of it. It was on that day last year that she told me it was over. We tried to work on things for a while and she finally moved out this March. I'm not loking forward to this day at all.
Paddington, I hope you managing on this day. It's got to get easier.
