Children alldone: Hi,
How do you explain to your children what is going on? Trust me I realize that kids are so much more intune than we know. However, how do you explain to them when thier dad is leaving? Please help me help them through this.
Any suggestions appreciated!
Amanda
Re: Children justmenow: It all depends on how old they are, but no matter what age, honesty and openness are important. You tell them only what they need to know.
1. This has nothing to do with you, it's between your (Daddy/Mommy) and I.
2. I will NEVER stop loving you
3. We will ALWAYS be your parents, and your aunts/uncles/grandparents are still your aunts/uncles/grandparents no matter what.
4. It's ok to be sad, angry and confused, I am too.
5. Do you have any questions?
6. I am here to talk to you anytime if you want to talk to me.
7. The rules (of discipline) are still in effect - kids will test you on this in your moments of weakness and guilt.
Be honest, but do not go into the gory details about the divorce. My teen has been pressing me as to the details, but I will NEVER divulge her Father's infidelities to her. It's just not a side of him that I want her to know.
Hope that helped.
Re: Children down2basics: I concurr with JMN - everything she said is true and applicable. How old are your children?
d2b
Re: Children alldone: My little ones are 8 and 8 months.
Amanda
Re: Children hurtingverymuch: I echo what JMN posted. It's pretty much what we told our son. He gets curious and asks questions about what happened. All I tell him is that it's a "big people's problem" and that it had nothing to do with him.
Hugs!
Hurt
