Re: New Here alldone: Thanks for all the responses! Well I went down at lunch to get child support paperwork. Hopefully it will go through before he moves out. We had talked about everything last night and he agreed to go (for today). He was actually sober last night when he said it to. Of course I had to deal with the crocodile tears to boot. My son is such a good kid he doesn't deserve to live in chaos. It is so funny he is the reason that I let him stay so long. Now he is the main reason I want him out so bad. My sister knows everything that is going on so she is my rock right now.
Thanks for the support guys!
Amanda
Re: New Here achingallover: If it helps at all, I really think you are doing the right thing by your son. This will be really tough for him...for both of you...this complete transition...but ultimately, the message you are sending him is one of not becoming a vicitim in your life. You are teaching that if you are dealing with someone who is NOT good to you - who takes your personal power and degrades you- that is not o.k. You are teaching him not to base your happiness on someone else. There are so many lessons here that he is learning through your not allowing your stbx to rampage without consequences. I know you must be scared to death with this. I can not imagine goign through this with children in the picture - but I honestly think once you get stabelized - and you WILL in time- what you are teaching him is SO WONDERFUL and INVALUABLE.
Hang in there. You're gonna get through this.
