Boy was I wrong twice!! aloneinIowa: I have been married twice! My first marriage was to my high school sweetheart we have two kids and where married for 14 years. Later on in a marriage I support my wife through Nursing school my doing three jobs and taking care of the kids! After she got her degree she cheated on me. We got a divorce and she had nothing to do with the kids for two years.
I got remarried 6 years ago to woman I knew before. She had gone through a divorce the same time I did and had two kids. Her first husband cheated on her for 7 years. We had so much alike and we both wanted the same things. After we got married my kids who are older started to act out because of my first divorce and because of what their mother did to them. My new wife did not understand what I was going through. I keep telling her not to judge me and my kids, because she does not know what her kids will do when they get at that age.
Will this summer I was very sick and they thought I might die and at the same time her son went to his dad’s and would not come home. Now she tells me that she can’t handle everything that is going on in her life and that she does not wants to depended on no one and she what more control in her life. I asked if I was the problem and she tells me no. She just can’t handle everything that is going on and what’s to get back in to control. I just do not understand! I have gone through bad time with my kids and she told me not let them control me or break us up! But it seems she can’t take her own advice. She did final amity she has a hard time letting go of things that happens to her. She still is hanging on to her past with her ex-husband! I also asked her about when she told me that I gave her everything is every wanted in a marriage! She said I did, but she did not say anything more!
I moved out two weeks ago and I know that she will never let me come back. The moving out was my idea and she took me up on it. I have asked to come home, but she will not even answer me back. I hate the idea that my marriage might be over!!! I feel like I failed again. Will I ever fine anyone that will love me back, stay true to me and support me know matter what happens in life. I always thought when two people get married it was for every! Boy was I wrong twice!!
