Re:SEX ChristyM: Agree with everyone else -- it's a combination of not being able to let go and missing you. They are still confused about what they want. I also had my ex say to me ... "Just the thought of you with someone else kills me". Funny it didn't bother him enough to want to stay with me. I guess it's a case of I don't necessarily want you but I don't want anyone else to either.
Christy
Re:SEX kellekae: ever heard of "ex sex" I never did it ..but then again my ex and I stopped having sex long before we separated..almost a year...i think its more along the lines of if the sex was good..but other issues exist that couldnt work out...then ex sex comes into play...my ex bf always wanted that..lol...(btw never did that), gotta be more to it for me than just physical gratification, that's why I have a small toy collection..lol
Re:SEX JimB: She left, and I'm pretty sure her sexual desire was a big part of what led her to suggest a reconciliation. The sex was always good for us, and it brought us back together briefly. "EX Sex" reopened the lines of communication with us, which allowed us to work on some of our other issues. But ultimately it wasn't enough.
It's more than just hormones - it's a means of seeking a certain type of comfort. It was fun for me, but in retrospect, I wish I'd said no....
Re:SEX Sad Eyes: I think everybody is right here...I think that some of it involves being unsure...having a hard time letting go and feeling comfort and history together. It's called testing the waters so to speak...giving it another chance to see if things can work.
This is the first time I have heard of "EX SEX" but I think kellykae brought up a very good point about the fact that you can still have really good sex even though your relationship is falling to pieces. Some couple's can remain very active even though their relationship is sadly falling apart. In a sense the sex becomes more important because that is the only true way of connecting with other person because you can't connect any other way.
And like JimB said...Ultimately it won't be enough.
SE
Re:SEX willow78: My stbx and I had sex everyday until a few days before I moved out. I knew he was seeing someone, but I knew he wasn't sleeping with her yet(he never would have had the time). Also I knew that as long as we were still having sex, he wouldn't be having it with her. But mostly I always hoped that when we were making love he would somehow fall back in love with me! He would tell me that he would try to, but he just couldn't. But he always would comment about how good our sex was. Now that I have moved out, I sometimes think I would still sleep with him, just to be close to him in that way. Is that crazy or what/ :P
