letting go ? auminer: Some will know my story. January 1st I moved into an apt. been with my ex for 9 yrs. 2 kids. no cheating, best of friends. We had separated numerous times in the last 3 yrs. She had lost those feelings for me.. She said (still says) That I was/Am her best friend but the feelings werent/arent there for long term commitment. She has met someone I from what I can tell she has strong feelings towards him. I told her a week ago with what IM going through can you wait till I heal a bit before dating this guy.. She feels very guilty about what she is doing to the family. Anyways she said she would and told this guy that she owes it too me to wait a bit. Last night I talked to her on the phone and told her that it want right for me to be making deals like that. She was suprised. I told her if you love something let it go.. I felst good about myself and felt very strong. Today I feel ok but sad... Why did I do this?? Is this part of letting go..
Re:letting go ? BigRunner493: if you didn't, you would just be prolonging the pain. the sooner you "allow" her to move on, the quicker you will get to that "happy place".
there is never a good time for this part for either party involved. i think you did the right thing.
tc,
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Re:letting go ? auminer: I guess I feel she will never really know what she wants until she is out there.. One day will she realize what she has lost? I dont know..We were so close to each other.. I do believe that someone has a plan for me. That plan im unaware of at this time.. As much as it hurts to let go.. I realize that I was not happy either.. Knowing someone is staying for the kids sake alone.. Some do not realize what they had till it is gone.. thats sad
