Re:I don't know what to do anymore teacherwriterguy: Adding my voice to the pile - involve the police at least to the point of documenting it and making a statement. If something worse happens, you don't want to have to start at the point of not having any proof that this is a pattern.
I agree with dj's comment about anger and control. It's a coping mechanism, just like anything else, and it's used for a purpose - to get a person what they want.
teacherwriterguy
Re:I don't know what to do anymore auminer: Sorry i feel like an idiot.. You reposted your original and I know realize what youre up against.. It is time to document this to the police. Please do not take things lightly. Uncontrolled Emotions can be dangerous. He is obviously not taking this well.. God bless you and your children
Re:I don't know what to do anymore paul76: Please, do yourself and your children a favor and go to the police before this really gets out of hand and becomes violent. Hopefully, with time, he will let you go...but make sure that you have a backup plan in case he doesnt go peacefully (ie police).
Re:I don't know what to do anymore CPmommy: Thanks for your responses, everyone. I truly appreciate it. I'm doing much better now emotionally than I was earlier this morning.
It has become a habit for me to document everything because of his past behavior. I called my attorney and he is aware of the situation. Just as soon as the papers for the provisional hearing are signed by the judge, I'm changing the locks and will be able to call the police for trespassing.
I do not think I am in imminent physical danger. I am also NOT hesitant to call the police.
The wildness of this is just wearing on me and, in turn, my kids. I just want it to be OVER. I want to get on with my life.
Thanks again, guys!
CP
Re:I don't know what to do anymore Sad Eyes: CpMommy~
I completely agree with DJ! I also agree with everyone else too...you need to get the police involved. If you don't....then BECAREFUL!!!! Lay low...don't do anything to set him off! I know..it sucks BUT soon the papers will be signed and then you can move on. You went years like this...just lay low for the time being. Do not contact him about anything else other than the children and the divorce and getting the papers signed....other than that...don't communicate! This is serious....the truth is spouse's get hurt or killed over heated situations like this and sadly...children become forever affected by the memories. :( I know how you are feeling...it's frustrating...you want to move on so bad. Just lay low...that is your best choice here and if he does this again...call right away or avoid a situation like that from happening again....never be alone with him...bring family or friends if you feel threatened. K?
I am here if you need me...please remember that...
Wishing you ALL THE BEST!!!
SE
